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i am with a married man hes MARIED TO...
| Fri, 09-03-2004 - 1:53pm |
i am with a married man hes MARIED TO MY SISTER should i leave him yes or no?
- YES
- No
- HELL YEA
- not if u love him
- not if he respects you
- YOU NEED HELP
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There is nothing to discuss, stay away from him.
I think that you have to come clean with her. No, it probably won't be nice telling her that you've been having sex with her husband. Yes, she will probably hate you for a while. But there is a better chance that she will still talk to you if it comes from you instead of her hearing it from other people.
When you tell her, don't talk about details like what he was like in bed, or exactly how many times you did have sex with him, or exactly what you did in bed with him. She might have a fascination with knowing the tinest details but it won't help her knowing them in the long-run. Make it clear to her that you are telling her because you feel bad about what has happened and that you have stopped stopped sleeping with him because it was so wrong. Hopefully she will see that her husband is at fault too and not just blame you.
Here's another couple of thoughts:
>>he just looked at me like he was confused <<
He probably was. He will have been wondering what on Earth this internet message board was, and who on Earth these people giving you advice were. He would have also been completely unsure of what to say since you were telling him that the relationship was wrong. He couldn't think of anything to say that would keep you under his thumb and under his control.
>>Then he told me that his cussin<<
This was probably a way of trying to tell you that it was OK to keep seeing him. He probably thought that since no-one else had told your sister and that they all knew that they approved of it in some way. Therefore there was no reason for you to feel bad about other people knowing and what they would say. A strange way of thinking.
>> but i cant advoid not talking to him<<
I think that you can. You will have to re-organise you life a little bit and find another way of getting to your appointments and the parties. When you do HAVE to see him you DO NOT have to talk to him. Do it for your sister if you really care about her.
>>whats a good way to not act like a fool?<<
Do what we've told you. You have made a bad mistake sleeping with your sister's husband. A responsible, mature adult will do the right thing, own up to their mistakes and accept that their actions have consequences. That's not going to make it any easier, but at least you can tell yourself that you have done the right thing.
I'm sorry, but you have to realise that you need to act like an adult in this situation.
What are you planning on doing? You have been given some very good advice. I think that you probably realise that you shouldn't be doing what you are doing, and that you should do something about it. What are you planning on doing now that you've had time to think about it? I guess that you've seen him again since you have to see him every day, shat has he said to you about it?
Edited 9/8/2004 8:45 pm ET ET by westridge2001
if you are under 18 and he is over 18 (depending on the state) you can press criminal charges. i'm not saying you should, as i don't really know what the dynamics of your relationship are. however, you can tell him it is over, and if he continues to press you for sex you will report him to the cops.
it is obvious you want to get out of this and you are having a hard time figuring out how to do it. there is no easy way. it is obvious your family is screwed up, since you are underage and he is over age, and most of them know and they tolerate it (not even taking into account the cheating aspect of it).
Adult or not, you took on the responsibility of "acting" like an adult when you started having sex with your sister's husband, now it's time for you to act like an adult, admit your mistakes and try to mend your relationship with your sister.
You need more than help, I think. Your sisters husband.... That is need your azz kicked wrong...
You are one of the
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But the thing is i am not a mature adult im not in the age wrange i am still a ""teenager" and how do you delete this post??
if you could delete the post, What would that change? How are you lets say 18, even if your younger 17,16 at one point you wasn't saying, Hey I am not a mature adult. So why start now? This is life all grown up for you, take a good look, fix things now, and then stay away from grown up things, because you are not ready for it............
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