I am SSOOO lucky!

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Registered: 12-16-2007
I am SSOOO lucky!
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Mon, 09-08-2008 - 8:39pm

And not in a sexual way. Yet! ;)


My oldest dd had a vb game tonight and I knew it would probably be late when I got home, then I'd have to cook supper, etc...


I called h and asked if he was going to fix supper and he gave a sarcastic 'yes' and I thought to myself 'Oh Great! One of THOSE nights again!'


When I finally got home around 6:30 I found an awesome saute he made with peppers, onions, tomatoes and minute steak, hash browns and wild rice cooking on the stove. He even set the table!


My sister called before I got home and he told her what he was making (her h would NEVER do anything like that for her!) and she told him how lucky I was. He told her that he was hoping he'd get lucky for what he did. NO BRAINER THERE!


I can help but think of the rest of the mom's who either had to cook supper when they got home or waste money going out to eat. He may have been a real horses a** last night but he sure made up for it tonight!


To repay the favor, I'm going to go get a little housework done so the house looks a little nicer for him. (And because if I don't do it now, I might not get the chance later!)


Anyone else lucky enough to get their sweeties to something as awesome for them? (btw he did the same thing for me when we were first married because I was extremely late getting off work because of some late deliveries and when I finally walked in the door he was pulling the tater tot casserole out of the oven.) *sigh*


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Registered: 02-28-2006
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:52pm
I'm sorry to hear that, Lyn. Are you and your children safe?


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Registered: 12-16-2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:57pm

It's not physical. Yelling, bullying, name calling, etc... I knew his dad had a tendency to do it to his mom but only until a couple of years ago when I was digging up some of my perinneals for his cousin and he began to get 'naughty' and I told him not to go there, she just giggled and said 'just like grandpa'.


If I ever win the lottery I'll get out. (I'll have my brother collect it so he won't get a dime! ;)


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:04pm

(((((Lyn))))), have you ever talked to him about seeing a therapist? Either alone or together?

While it can be a learned behavior, there are ways he can learn to deal with it IF he has an interest in it stopping.

Maybe asking him if he would want your daughters to be talked to like that by their spouses one day might make a difference.





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Registered: 02-28-2006
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:06pm
Just because it isn't physical doesn't make the scars it leaves any less deep. Have you by and chance checked out the Recognizing & Dealing w/Domestic Abuse board here in the village? The women there are wonderfully empathic and supportive.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rldomesting



{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}


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Registered: 12-16-2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:18pm

I've mentioned counseling, he said no. He's even gone as far to throw me out with a 3.5 yo and 2 mo. old. (They are now 13 & 9.5) He told me if I didn't come back he'd file papers. I should've let him.


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Registered: 12-16-2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 8:52am

I've visited over there before. I know I probably should some more but I just haven't.


I do have to kind of laugh when I think about something that happened a few years ago.


Things were really bad and he was being super mean and my oldest had a softball game. Well, her coach works for youth & shelter services and she told me to call an apartment complex that is income based and tell the person that she referred me. She had an apartment that

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