I can't ride

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Registered: 01-22-2007
I can't ride
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 6:29pm
My boyfriend is alot smaller than me in size; he's skinny and I have a very voluptuous figure. So whenever we try to do woman on top position, I'm always too afraid to put all of my weight on him and I end up hurting him or bending IT:-(! Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not all that big (I'm 145, 5'4) but he weighs just as much as I do and he's 5'8. What techniques could we could use that would allow me to comfortably ride him? And I also, have a faint suspicion that my size has nothing to do with it and I'm just not doing it right, which would be even more horrifying. So any tips on how to ride are welcome. Thanks.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: riprue
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 12:10am

I think your suspicion is right. It has nothing to do with your size or weight. I have visions of you bouncing up and down...which is the only way you could hurt him...and that's NOT what you should do. "Riding" is a very poor descriptor, and that's probably given you the wrong ideas.

Woman on Top is very easy, and there's no way you'll hurt him. You straddle him on your KNEES, not your heels. You don't want to bounce up and down, imitating a man's thrusting. Leave that for him.

Once you're balanced and comfortable on top of him, you just move your hips in a circular motion, and maybe thrust your hips forward occasionally....all the time being in contact with his body. That way your clitoris will get stimulation from his pubic bone. You move slowly and sensuously.....think "lap dance"!

You have to remember that this position is for you, not for him. He may not finish in this position....but he will enjoy laying there watching you, and touching you. When you're finished, or too tired to go on, then change up, let him be on top and finish, and you'll both be smiling.




Edited 1/23/2007 12:21 am ET by sakura2006
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Registered: 12-09-2006
In reply to: riprue
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 9:06pm

First off let me say that you really shouldn't worry about the size difference. My fellow and I are in the same boat, I am 5'6" and about 150lbs.( round and soft, but certainly not fat) and my boyfriend is 6' and 135lb. He is very thin but terribly sexy. Anyway, he told me that it is actually nice for him that I am voluptuous because when you are a man and thin, it can be rather uncomfortable if your sexual partner is thin as well because it is like bone knocking together during sex. His hips rest nicely and softly against my body and it is really quit comfortable for both of us, also because he is thin and his hips are narrow, he can draw his body closer to mine and fit better between my thighs. Okay, not on to the "riding" portion. I agree with the previous comment, you need to relax and remember to roll your hips, don't bounce. You will have a much better time and so will he. Also, it is important to remember that just because a fellow is thin, doesn't mean he is fragile. My boyfriend is quite sturdy and a whole lot stronger than I am. At first I was unsure about some positions, particularly those where I would be sitting on his lap, but once we discussed it and tried it, it was just fine. Don't worry about it, just communicate with him about it. Oh, and let him guide your hips with his hands when you are on top. I have found this is a really good way to overcome any anxiety and concern about what to do when I am on top. Hope this helps.

Tinasparkle78

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Registered: 07-26-2004
In reply to: riprue
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 10:51pm

I agee with the other posters. When my partner puts me on top, it's so he can get a break while I enjoy myself. I do what the second poster in this thread said..move hips and stay in contact with my partner's body. To get off that way, I barely have to move at all and he enjoys the show until he's ready to flip me over and finish his stuff. Thrust are best left for the man to do because he knows how to keep himself from getting bent or jammed up.

The weight is not the issue. My partner is at least 100 lbs heavier than me and he has never hurt me, even when he's rough.