I don't FEEL anything...
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| Fri, 05-30-2008 - 8:53pm |
OK, so we had sex again last night. We were laying on his bed cuddling and watching a movie, and his hands went up my skirt VERY slowly...my hands then went to his crotch and he unzipped his fly for me. I gave him a little hand action, he got hard, the condom went on, and we started. This time he WAS on top; I laid on the bed and he took my legs and lifted them in the air, one on either side of him (like a V). He started out with slow thrusts and then went quicker and quicker.
The thing is, though, that all I felt was him inside me!!! I didn't feel any tingling or intense pleasure like when I take care of myself, but I didn't feel any pain or hurt whatsoever. I just felt his penis and that's it! Maybe it's because it was only the second time EVER that I've had sex...I know things will get better as I learn and get more experience, but this is really frustrating!


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It often takes longer to learn how to have an orgasm during intercourse, and unfortunately, some women never do. Most women need some sort of clit stimulation to actually have an orgasm.
Also, it takes a while to get used to sex. Besides feeling his penis inside of you, you need to be in the right frame of mind, thinking sexy thoughts, and being active in what is going on between the two of you.
Here are a couple of articles that might help to explain some of it:
Everything You Want to Know about Orgasms
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,traceycox_c4qgbvt5,00.html
Four Positions for a Better Orgasm
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,pb47,00.html?nlcid=ls|12-13-2007|
"Why are my orgasms more intense during masturbation?"
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638353_634298,00.html
Why can’t I have an Orgasm?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drruth_qr4q,00.html
I think being aware of your own body and how it responds, combined with the desire to have great sex will get you there. The next time the two of you are together, try adding clitoral stimulation during intercourse and see if that makes a difference.
Keep us posted on how things are going. Ask lots of questions, and read the articles. The more you learn and the more tips you pick up, the more prepared you'll be.
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I've got three things coming to mind here:
1) you didn't get enough foreplay to really get into it prior to sex
2) the position didn't do anything for you, or really stimulate your g-spot
3) you are like most females in that you need clitoral stimulation during intercourse to derive pleasure from it.
It could also be more than one of the above as well, obviously.
You might want to try propping your bum up on a cushion or pillow next time, this will help him get a better angle for stimulation.
It takes time for everything to get cranked up inside. I know with DW if not enough foreplay is done then she does not feel anything but if there is a long build up then there is lots of sensations she feels when I am in her. That could be it but since your just starting your still learning so give it time and do lots of experimenting. Just remember just because he pops up does not mean that your equipment is ready. It typically does not take much to make him hard.
-Gerry-
-Gerry-
From what you describe, your b/f has a LOT to learn about the female body, and about sex.
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