I don't FEEL anything...

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I don't FEEL anything...
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Fri, 05-30-2008 - 8:53pm

OK, so we had sex again last night. We were laying on his bed cuddling and watching a movie, and his hands went up my skirt VERY slowly...my hands then went to his crotch and he unzipped his fly for me. I gave him a little hand action, he got hard, the condom went on, and we started. This time he WAS on top; I laid on the bed and he took my legs and lifted them in the air, one on either side of him (like a V). He started out with slow thrusts and then went quicker and quicker.


The thing is, though, that all I felt was him inside me!!! I didn't feel any tingling or intense pleasure like when I take care of myself, but I didn't feel any pain or hurt whatsoever. I just felt his penis and that's it! Maybe it's because it was only the second time EVER that I've had sex...I know things will get better as I learn and get more experience, but this is really frustrating!


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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 3:29pm
you are not feeling any thing, because you did not mention any thing about foreplay, clit excitement, ask to him to do some thing for you as well to become you more excited and emotional
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 4:30pm

The vagina is sort of like the skin.

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 4:31pm
Well, after reading all the posts I realized that I am not getting NEARLY ENOUGH foreplay! Maybe I need to show him what I do for myself
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 4:39pm

Looks like we were posting at the same time! Rain, thanks for your answer. I think you hit the nail on the head with the mental stimulation part. The second time we made love, I remember thinking "What am I supposed to be doing? Is he enjoying this? What's going to happen?". Maybe next time, there will be a bit more foreplay and my

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 4:43pm

Ah.....so it's very new!

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 7:25pm
Welcome to the board, Malik, and thanks for joining in.


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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 7:35pm
"I think it's due to the fact that I'm so inexperienced (he's 7 years older than me and has had several partners)."


Don't let the fact that he's had several partners confuse you. Each of us is unique and may need different types of stimulation to be "our thing". While he's had several partners, they may have all been wall flowers -- so he may not be aware of what a female typically needs for arousal and/or orgasm.


Showing him is a great idea, and a gift he can keep forever! I think Sakura gave you a link to www.the-clitoris.com. You might want to share that link with him too. He can read on his own time and hopefully pick up some tips there too.


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Sun, 06-01-2008 - 12:41am

I have news for you.

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Sun, 06-01-2008 - 11:29pm

First time , he pokes you from behind and doesn't even consider that you may be sore....


Second time he parts your legs and pokes without foreplay....


Seriously now.... he may have had previous partners, but it certainly hasn't wizened him up to being a considerate and unselfish lover.


This is not good sex,

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Tue, 06-03-2008 - 8:42pm
It was basically the same way for me the second time. Give a couple more times and if you are anything like me you will be addicted. If you still aren't then just try rubbing your clit while he's doing you. Be careful if you have long nails though. Enough said. Best of luck to you :)

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