I don't know whats wrong!
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I don't know whats wrong!
| Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:56pm |
I have recently decided to become sexually active, but my boyfriend and I have been having this problem.. he can't get it in! We have tried different positions, but nothing works. I know it's not because of dryness. He says it's because I'm too tight down there, and he is also bigger than average. Is there anything we can do??

Are you getting enough foreplay, LOTS of foreplay with oral and/or manual stimulation
No, you're not too small! You're too tight, and that means that you're not doing enough or the the right kind of foreplay, OR that you're just too nervous. Unless you're well aroused, well lubricated AND relaxed, your vaginal muscles are tight. If you've tried several times, and it hurts, that just makes you more nervous and scared that it will hurt again.
Your vagina doesn't "stretch out".....except when you're aroused. When you're finished, it goes right back to being closed and tight again.
Maybe you two just aren't ready for intercourse yet. Do whatever you did before, and wait awhile till you try again. Funny thing is, he'll love it, and you'll say "is that all there is?" Intercourse isn't the be-all end-all of sex for a woman.....it's just one of the many sexual things we can do....and of course, men love it.
I think someone gave you this site already, but if you haven't looked at it yet....here it is again: www.the-clitoris.com It might help you with your problems, if not it will educate you about your body.