I don't know whats wrong!

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Registered: 12-30-2006
I don't know whats wrong!
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:56pm
I have recently decided to become sexually active, but my boyfriend and I have been having this problem.. he can't get it in! We have tried different positions, but nothing works. I know it's not because of dryness. He says it's because I'm too tight down there, and he is also bigger than average. Is there anything we can do??
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 9:38pm

Are you getting enough foreplay, LOTS of foreplay with oral and/or manual stimulation


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Registered: 04-27-2006
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 11:44pm
She's right, lots of foreplay will help getting you both aroused and relaxed and it feels really good as well. Just relax and enjoy one another and it will fall into place. Have fun!
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Registered: 12-30-2006
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 12:13pm
thanks so much for your answers! But thats the thing.. we are doing a Lot of foreplay, and we have tried lube. could it be that im just too small? and is there any way to um.. stretch it out?
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 12:53pm

No, you're not too small! You're too tight, and that means that you're not doing enough or the the right kind of foreplay, OR that you're just too nervous. Unless you're well aroused, well lubricated AND relaxed, your vaginal muscles are tight. If you've tried several times, and it hurts, that just makes you more nervous and scared that it will hurt again.

Your vagina doesn't "stretch out".....except when you're aroused. When you're finished, it goes right back to being closed and tight again.

Maybe you two just aren't ready for intercourse yet. Do whatever you did before, and wait awhile till you try again. Funny thing is, he'll love it, and you'll say "is that all there is?" Intercourse isn't the be-all end-all of sex for a woman.....it's just one of the many sexual things we can do....and of course, men love it.

I think someone gave you this site already, but if you haven't looked at it yet....here it is again: www.the-clitoris.com It might help you with your problems, if not it will educate you about your body.