I don't understand "Woman on Top" Sex
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| Sun, 09-26-2004 - 11:24pm |
My wife has orgasmed when I perform oral or stimulate her clitoris with my fingers on the "outside". We have tried to have me insert a finger but she doesn't like it that way.
A new and perhaps unusual way that she reaches orgasm is that we sit facing each other and she grabs my member and with her hand directs it where she wants (usually in a circular motion until she comes). It takes everything I have to hold back and not orgasm myself. Seeing her get herself off using my member in her hand as a "joystick" is a major turn-on. The downside is that I don't get to be inside her when she orgasms and I feel a little distant. I want to have "full contact" sex. I could care less about our orgasms being times mutually....I just want her to have one with me inside.
Now, what we don't understand is why she can't have an orgasm while on top WITH ME INSIDE. We have tried and she says she doesn't feel the stimulation on her clitoris. We searched all over for good articles on sex with "woman on top" and they all say for the woman to rub her clitoris on the man's pubic bone for stimulation. Pubic Bone? Where the hell is that? And even if I have one...isn't it going to be covered with so much muscle, fat, cartilege, etc. that she won't feel it. My wife felt around for mine and says perhaps my pubic bone is not pronounced enough or it is covered in muscle/fat and she can't feel it. I have no idea what it is she is supposed to rub her clitoris on when she is on top.
Can anyone direct me to a good description of how to have "woman on top" sex? I've visited the Cosmopolitan board description and we are still at a loss. Is there an alternative to the "pubic bone" stimulating her? I have tried to use my fingers but it is hard as there is very little room between our bodies when she is on top. How do I fit my fingers on her clitoris...and even if I can get them there...I can't move around freely enough to pleasure her and it feels so awkward and clumsy.
We are much better at getting her off if she does the moving. Even during oral...all I typically do is "roll my tongue around" and "lick in a circular motion" and she moves to wherever it feels good to her until she orgasms. One alternative is to have her "touch herself off" while she is on top but there is just not enough room to get her fingers comfortably in between our bodies and move them around the way she wants when we are "belly to belly".
Am I making any sense? Anyone have any advice. This is embarassing to ask but we are at our wits end.

As far as the oral part goes, maybe you should try to not just use your tongue, but insert a finger just inside the opening at the same time. Move it around a little and have her just relax. If she's relaxed enough, you might be able to make her orgasm that way. Hope this helps!