I don't want to sound like a jerk but...

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Registered: 11-16-2007
I don't want to sound like a jerk but...
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Fri, 11-16-2007 - 4:55pm
I don't want to sound like a jerk but i need help. My boyfriend is over 300 lbs. not by much but he is, and i am not even 140 lbs. when we have sex its wonderful, but no matter what position we are in my legs hurt from being so far apart, and his weight gets in the way of his favorite positions. I love him more than anything and i just want to be us both to be
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 5:26pm

Welcome to the board, goddess_texan11.

Have you tried woman on top (WOT)? I have short legs, and find that placing pillows on either side of my hubby helps compensate for that. I would imagine they would work the same to help you in your situation. Just use one or two pillows on either side of him and rest your legs on top of the pillows.

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Wed, 11-21-2007 - 6:44pm

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Wed, 11-21-2007 - 8:14pm

I have to agree with zlibby76, you can suggest that he takes his health in check, which includes exercising. That is not a healthy weight (not trying to be rude or anything, just honest).

You won't sound like a jerk if you don't say it in a jerky way. Let him know that you love him and you suggesting weight-loss has nothing to do with superficiality. Let him know how it will benefit the both of you. Also, you can do it together - cook healthier foods and exercise together. You don't have to turn into "health nuts" because I sure love my "treats" too. But a little healthier foods won't hurt anybody.

I do realize that being overweight isn't always due to unhealthy eating. So, I'm sorry if that's not the case.

In the meantime, you can try out positions that compliment you're weight difference, like WOT which was suggested.