I forget how to date

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2007
I forget how to date
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Fri, 09-28-2007 - 4:38am

I am divorced after 22 yrs.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 8:55am

Welcome to the board purr45.



There are no rules that say you have to have sex before you're ready too. It's perfectly okay to date and see if you want your relationship to become intimate. If you're dating a man, and let him know you're just not ready to be intimate yet, and he's really interested, he'll stick around. If you develop a close relationship prior to having sex, then you won't be as concerned about your body image.



Guys see your body with clothes on, so they know your basic shape. Perky boobs are great, but gravity happens with the aging process. I have large boobs, which became saggy early because of their size and I've never had a guy say "Ewww, your boobs are saggy". Your body image of yourself will do far more damage in the bedroom than his image of your body.



Like anything else, the more you do something, the more confidence you build up. Don't worry that flirting will make him think you want to have sex with him. There's a difference between flirting and teasing, and if he has the wrong impression, you can quickly let him know your intentions. The more you interact with men, the easier it will become for you to interact with them. It will also help to build your confidence as they begin to respond.



Another board you might want to visit is Rejoining the Dating Game. You might find more people there that are going through similar types of feelings.



You've made some life altering changes lately, so give yourself time to take little steps and discover who you are along the way. Keep us posted on how you're doing.










iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2006
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 9:12am

"Where do I begin?"


Working on yourself image.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2003
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 10:06pm

Hello Purr,


This may surprise you but most people are human and so are you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2004
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 8:59pm

"Now that I'm 45, my body image is in the trash. Stretch marks, flabby belly, and boobs that just hang there are scaring me to avoid 'going there'. I have had some men interested, but I feel like a tease 'cause I don't know if I can ever want to get naked."

As a 45 year old guy I can say I sure don't look the same as I did 20 years ago. :-0 So in way its actually a little reassuring my partner isn't perfect, cause I'm not.....

bear that in mind......you'll do fine....

funny enough one of the best way to get over body image is to go to nudist event. You will see all shapes and sizes and quickly realize your just like everyone else.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2007
Thu, 10-04-2007 - 9:37pm