"i forgot"

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"i forgot"
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:18pm
ok ..im 19 ..married with 2 kids ( had my 1st when i was 15 .. i know i was to young dont tell me again ..thanks ) and just had my other kid about 4 months ago ..my husband really wants another baby ..but im starting med school next week and he works .....neways the past 6 or so times we've made love he keeps saying "i forgot" to put on his condom ..and its the same thing everytime ..and im not BC right now ..i tryed talking to him he did say he does want me to get pregnant but he wouldnt try without telling me but i think he is trying ...any help is great


Edited 2/21/2005 11:58 pm ET ET by mommy_lex

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:42pm

There are medical schools that start in the middle of February and admit 19 year olds?

If you don't want to get pregnant again, call your OB/GYN and ask for a prescription for birth control. Or put the condom on your husband yourself.

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:43pm
Do you think he is insecure about you starting school and trying to sabotage you?
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:47pm
yup unc
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:49pm

How did you find time between babies to finish High School and College by age 19?

Seriously, if you don't want a baby then you have two choices......abstinence, or get on birth control since your husband is so forgetful.

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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:52pm

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i dont know ..i mean we will still be living together ..but he works ..so its not like he's not used to not seeing me alot :-/




Edited 2/21/2005 11:53 pm ET ET by mommy_lex
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:56pm
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my husband's mom kept lillie ( my 1st) till i finshed high school .didnt finsh college ..i typed MED .SCHOOL but i meant ..its like a pre-med school thing ...thats what they told me today neway
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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 12:02am

There's a huge difference between medical school and whatever program you're doing at UNC (Chapel Hill?) without a college degree.

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 12:23am

Definitely get the pill. Don’t depend on his use of a condom.
Go to the gyno during the day while he is at work. Sometimes you can
See one with ought having to make an appointment way in advance.. or see a family planning facility, either way do it ASAP.

If your hubby ever starts asking “ wow I haven’t worn a condom in such a long time.
I wonder what’s wrong.. you can say to him , “oh I forgot to tell you I’ve been taking the pill”. :p
Also, until you get started on the pill definitely put the condom on him yourself.
Anyways I don’t think it should be too hard for you to realize on your own weather he has one on or not.. at least touch him down there before you let him penetrate you and make sure he’s got it on.. if not, open your drawer and pull out a pack.

P.S. I don’t think your hubby is worried about seeing less of you..
I think he’s worried about you becoming more independent and self-efficient.

A baby is a good way to hold you back ( if that is his intent of having a child)

Knowing you are wanting to finish your studies and you have already had children that ask for allot of attention as it is.. It seams very irresponsible/selfish/manipulative on his part..

but i could be wrong.. but that's how it looks

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 1:10am

Your DH can only "forget" to put on a condom if you let him so put it on him yourself. And as the others suggested, get on the pill.

Sounds like your DH is afraid that you will outgrow him and won't need him anymore if you go to school and better yourself. Reassure him but get on the pill.

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 2:22am

Forgetting to put on a condom? I don't think so. That's like opening the front door and seeing that it's a thunderstorm outside. Then walking out into it, turning to look back at you standing inside, and then saying "Oh I've forgotten my raincoat!".
He hasn't forgotten it at all! He IS definitely trying to get you pregnant. It's not even like when the two of you 'remember' that he stops and puts a condom on. I bet he just continues without one and ejeculates in you, doesn't he?

Like the other's have said, he must feel threatened that you are going back to school. He's either threatened and jealous of the idea that you will be surrounded by other men in the classes, or he's threatened by the idea that you will further your education and "out-grow" him.

The only way that you are going to NOT get pregnant is to get yourself on the pill. I wouldn't even trust making him wear a condom. You just know that it's going to break all the time, or slip off or somehow get a pinhole in it....

I know that some people play games about this sort of thing, but honestly, if he was doing it to me I'd be upset and would have to reconsider what and why he thinks he can try to do this to me when he knows that I want to go back to school. Is he really thinking of the two of you or is he being very selfish?

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