"i forgot"

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Registered: 02-20-2005
"i forgot"
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 11:18pm
ok ..im 19 ..married with 2 kids ( had my 1st when i was 15 .. i know i was to young dont tell me again ..thanks ) and just had my other kid about 4 months ago ..my husband really wants another baby ..but im starting med school next week and he works .....neways the past 6 or so times we've made love he keeps saying "i forgot" to put on his condom ..and its the same thing everytime ..and im not BC right now ..i tryed talking to him he did say he does want me to get pregnant but he wouldnt try without telling me but i think he is trying ...any help is great


Edited 2/21/2005 11:58 pm ET ET by mommy_lex

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 8:28am
I have to ask, where are you that you would

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 5:09pm
Your husband is doing this on purpose. You need to either take responsibility for the birth controll yourself, of kiss med school goodbye. You don't want to be sitting around someday wondering "what might have been."
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 4:27pm

He needs to be responsible regardless, yes, but would it help also if you two had more of a heart to heart about things in general? Last thing you need is for either one of you to bottle up your true feelings about your future plans together without at least opening up to each other about it.

I say this only because of his lack of seriousness regarding your request in this matter. Just an observation based on what you've shared with us so far. Guesses are totally free here. ;)

 

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 7:07am
I am a firm believer in if you don't want any more children or at least not right now, you have to take control of the BC issue. There are plenty of safe, reliable BC methods for women. Go talk to your OB/GYN or FP and discuss your options, then choose one. If he's unreliable, for whatEVER reason, then you be the responsible one. I love my DH too, but I wouldn't depend on him to use condoms every time, which is why I was in charge of BC.

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