I hate being on top

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Registered: 03-14-2007
I hate being on top
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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 7:04pm
I hate being on top, besically because I have no idea what I am doing. Does anybody have any good tips, besides "do what feels good"? Or, any websites to go to? HHHEEELLLPP!!!
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Registered: 06-24-2006
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 8:19pm
Well, while your on top you can either face him or go in the other direction. He may like you facing him as he can play with your breasts and have easy access to your clit. So, while on top you can rock back and forth, go from side to side. I like to bend forward and kiss him as well, also allowes me to grind myself against him, you can also bend a bit backwards play with yourself, he will surely love watching this. Sitting on him, you can also play with him both in front and back. And of course the traditional bouncing up and down (within reason ofcourse), is always a favorite. There are lots of variety of places you cn put your legs, its just what makes you and him comfortable. so Experiment, and have fun.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 9:09pm
Hey there Kayla---
I love love love being on top--it's my favorite position.
Bear pretty much covered the different things and ways to move while on top.
For a while that was the only way in which I could get off.
Of course since then and experimenting I am able to in many different ways now, but WOT is definitly my favorite.
Hubby also loves it---As Bear said cause he can play with my breasts and clit, also he just loves watching me.
I hope you can get comfortable in this position cause it truly is great!!!
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Registered: 12-19-2006
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 9:51pm
Is it possible that you can't get into what feels good because you are self-conscious? It does rather feel like you are on display, but it is also worth it -- the sensations are great. Try facing his feet and see if that helps you relax enough to enjoy.


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Registered: 01-16-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 4:14pm

Everyone has basically told you the basics.

I used to be very self-conscious until just last weekend actually, which made me so confused about what to do and stuff. Is your boyfriend encouraging? It may help if he is. Sometimes the only way to enjoy being on top is to be confident with yourself. If you aren't, you'll be forever thinking "what if im doing it wrong?" if he doesn't say "stop right there" you are probably doing something right. There is no right or wrong way to do it, just what feels best for you.

For me, grinding myself on him by rocking back and forth is best. For you, it may be something completely different. Talk with him. Maybe request he put his hands on your hips to guide you until you are comfortable.

Good luck and have fun x

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Registered: 12-28-2006
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 4:55pm

Like others have said are you comfortable with your body. For me I like being able to watch her. Have you ever masturbated in front of him. I bet he would be turned on if you played with your breasts or slipped a hand down lower. Lean forward and encourage him to suck your breasts.

As far as what is happening between your legs you can grind against him giving your clit a workout. You can do the reverse of what he does on top but with you in control. One of the things women fail to grasp is that men enjoy seeing and knowing that you are having a good time. Being on top is a time for you break out of the passive role of him trying to anticipate your needs and desires. It can also be a time for him to learn about you.