I have to ask.

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Registered: 11-25-2006
I have to ask.
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 9:02pm

Hi everyone,
I am new to this board, glad I found it, great information! I have met a great guy online, and we have gone out a few times, alittle kissing here and there we have not had sex yet. I have not been in the dating game for a good while, my question is (blushing) when we get to that special moment of making love, would it be to forward of me to perform oral sex on him, I've been thinking about it, don't know what to do, should we even go there the first time.
I am 42, 3 kids, and he is 35 2 kids, both divorced. I was married 10 years, this is so new, it's silly that i feel this way.

Lisa

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 12:19am

I think the "first time" with any new partner is more conservative and reserved....and as you get to know each other better, and feel more comfortable, you let the "real you" come out.

If it's something you LOVE doing, and you want to do it, then go ahead. But, if you're not sure how he'll receive it, wait. It's all up to you. There are a few men who aren't into oral sex......and maybe he's one of them. But then, if it's something you love doing, I guess you'd want to know ASAP.....because he's not a good match.

Bottom line, be yourself, and do what you want to do.

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 12:42am

Thankyou! I think I'll wait.

Lisa

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Registered: 02-21-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 1:15am

first of all, love your user name!! haha secondly, i feel like if you're into giving oral, you could start kissing down his chest and stomach towards that general direction and see how he receives it, if he seems like he is into where you're going with it, oral can be great foreplay, if he seems squemish or uncomfortable i'm sure he'll speak up or his body language will be more than telling. Definately dont hold back too much, otherwise you may each think that eachother is a different sort of person in bed than you really are, and you want to know the truth about one anothers desires and needs.

-Andie

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 12:56pm
Hey cubanbabe3, thanks :)
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Registered: 09-15-2004
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 7:27pm
Let him make the first move. If he goes down on you, then maybe you can reward him. I think you should make him wait and tease him for some time.
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Registered: 11-25-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 10:43pm

I like that advice, thanks!

Lisa