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| Tue, 05-11-2004 - 7:40pm |
I've been doing a lot of thinking over the last few weeks about things. Now that some of you know a little about me, I have been thinking of some of the other associates wives, the ones that give me "that look". My friend (who sells Mary Kay Cosmetics) has been bugging me to have a make-over party. They would receive free facials (not those kind!), manicures and pedicures - whatever their choice. I was thinking this might be a good way to break the ice a little with them and let them see that I am not just R's wife who lets her boobs hang out. I know one of the other wives enough to call her up and she likes me, but doesn't like R. She pulled me aside one night and told me I shouldn't let R dress me that way - so she must have heard from her hubby or someone that he does that. I don't know. I think she might help get the other wives to come. It would be during the day, they could come over and drink their martini's and watch my friend sell her stuff. What do you think? I think its a positive for all. Any thoughts or comments? I know this is not about sex, but I would appreciate knowing what you think.

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Leticia
They all smoke like chimneys, drink martini's and gossip - so maybe they will come out of sheer curiosity, if nothing else.
Have any of their husband's seen you topless? Are you willing to possibly hear criticism about your hubby and his ideas?
It sounds as if they may have already been discussing how he treats you and at least one of them seems to agree with the consensus of the members on your original thread.
I'll throw my 2cents worth in...
I don't know much about Mary Kay cosmetics and I certainly don't know much about the other women. I have been involved in (more than likely) similar social circles before and I do know that often rich, bored, snobby wives love nothing more than to gossip and bitch about one another and especially about 'new young wives with big breasts'. They may not think very much of cosmetic parties and Mary Kay either.
I think that it would be good to meet them and to talk to them in a more relaxed and natural (whatever that is) situation than at business dinners; but it could also be disheartening to find them bitching and sniping at you. It sounds good to let them get to know you but they may not be that interested in getting to know the real you.
Having said that, they may love to come to a little ol' cosmetic party to break the boredom. You know the old saying, curiosity killed the cat?
Stay relaxed and if it doesn't go well just remember that their opinion didn't matter before and shouldn't afterwards.
If they're younger, second "trophy wives" like you, they might show up, but I wouldn't count on it.
Anyhow, wearing a revealing dress is not that big of a deal, but flashing other women's husbands is disrespectful to those women. It's a choice you make.
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I was telling R about it last night and he was surprised. He also told me not to be disappointed and that he didn't want them saying anything mean or catty to me. I told him how I wanted to fit in more at the dinners and he agreed that if trying something like this would make me feel good, then do it. He just doesn't want them still at our house when he gets home from work that day - which they wouldn't be. He only likes one or two of them, the others, he thinks they are gossippy and witchy - with a "B".
I think they all need hobbies or something! They are that type to lunch at their clubs and play cards. That's fine and I like lunching with my girlfriends too, but not a weekly standing thing or anything.
I'm going to call one or two of them next week and see what is a good day for them and especially talk to the one lady (who likes me). I think she will be the one to get them to come.
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