I have a situation...help!!
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I have a situation...help!!
| Tue, 03-07-2006 - 7:53pm |
I need some opinions on this situation. I am friends with a guy and have been for 15+ years. He has always liked me I think but I never felt that way about him and now he is married and has been for almost 3 years, I am single. We have never stopped being friends and still hang out all the time. Recently we kissed and talked about having sex. Here's a problem, the couple of times we attempted to have sex, he came before we even started...I thought it was a one or two time thing but as soon as we assume the position, he comes sometimes with his clothes still on. Finally today, it actually happened but it was all of 1 second. Why does this happen? Some people say its because he's wanted me for so long, and he's just excited because it's new...can this be true?

Sorry, but you've known him for 15+ years, you've known he liked you, but you weren't interested in him.....and now that he's married, you're kissing him and having sex with him?
He's probably got a guilty conscience, that's usually bad for sex. Maybe he's just a lousy lover.
I agree with dakine....maybe he feels guilty about cheating on his wife.
Guilt can cause all kinds of reactions and maybe, subconsciously, he's trying to avoid consumating this relationship because he knows it's wrong.
Edited 3/8/2006 12:35 am ET by katmandoo2001
not only you've known that he liked you for 15 years, but you've waited till he's married to hook up with him!
WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?!?
Love-6, I am a man and I believe that he has a condition called premature ejaculation. I am sure that it is also happening with his wife. There are men who get so excited, that they ejaculate sometimes before they enter the woman or after one thrust. You said that he once ejaculated before he got his pants off.
With that said, I say that you have NO business having sexual relations with a married man. Like the others have said, you had your chance during the 15 years that you knew him when he was single. Now that he is married he is OFF LIMITS !!