I just discovered my BF's levitra
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I just discovered my BF's levitra
| Thu, 01-12-2006 - 10:01am |
Hi everyone -
I am in a quandry. I just discovered my BF's levitra. We have been together for almost four years and I knew that something was going on, but I couldn't be sure until I found the bottles. The sex really has been much better since the prescriptions were filled. It's not that I don't love him and I think it is admirable of him to do this for me, but why did he hide it? Should I confront him,, or just keep pretending I don't know? Doesn't he know that I will love him no matter what? How would you handle this situation? If he can't trust me with this, can he trust me with anything?
I am in a quandry. I just discovered my BF's levitra. We have been together for almost four years and I knew that something was going on, but I couldn't be sure until I found the bottles. The sex really has been much better since the prescriptions were filled. It's not that I don't love him and I think it is admirable of him to do this for me, but why did he hide it? Should I confront him,, or just keep pretending I don't know? Doesn't he know that I will love him no matter what? How would you handle this situation? If he can't trust me with this, can he trust me with anything?

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I would like to ask you guys how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your partner was taking a similar medication without your knowledge? My DH would be hurt and feel that our trust was betrayed and I agree.
I understand the feelings you describe, I've experienced them myself, but do you not feel that you are compromising your partner's trust by keeping such secrets from her?
And don't forget...these drugs are not without potentially lethal side effects for many men. Blindness, heart attack, stroke, etc. etc. I think a wife should be part of the decision process when it comes to taking drugs with THOSE kinds of side effects and risks!
What happens if you drop over during lovemaking and your partner doesn't know that you're taking one of these drugs so that she can inform the EMT's? Could mean the difference between life and death....WAY too high a price to pay to maintain your ego if you ask me.
Edited 1/13/2006 1:05 pm ET by katmandoo2001
You sold me.
Good post Kat, a real eye opener.
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>>>>I would like to ask you guys how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your partner was taking a similar medication without your knowledge?<<< I would be hurt sure, but does it mean loss of trust and betrayel ... not sure, I guess that is like trusting her not to cheat when I am not there to make sure, I just trust.
>>>>I understand the feelings you describe, I've experienced them myself, but do you not feel that you are compromising your partner's trust by keeping such secrets from her?<<< Perhaps but, I hope she would understand enough to give me some space on this one. I would kinda expect to get some tough questions, I have to admit, but not sure how she would handle it.
>>>And don't forget...these drugs are not without potentially lethal side effects for many men. Blindness, heart attack, stroke, etc. etc. <<<< Most drugs do, and I even saw a tv show where someone was killed by putting peanut oil on thier glass.
>>>I think a wife should be part of the decision process when it comes to taking drugs with THOSE kinds of side effects and risks! <<< I totaly agree!
PS Before I sound too much 'like a guy', she was with me to my cardio doc, and I was with her to her gyno doc. Mine was not much just a few pills, hers needed surgery to remove a cyst from her overy. He said about 45 minutes, it was about 4 hours of pure agony for me so say the least, and I am sure no picnic for her either. We both heard first hand what the doctors's said about it all.
Check up no big deal, problems we are there for each other if at all possible.
>>>What happens if you drop over during lovemaking and your partner doesn't know that you're taking one of these drugs so that she can inform the EMT's? Could mean the difference between life and death....WAY too high a price to pay to maintain your ego if you ask me.<<< Hmm mostly agree, see above, but I am not a very strong person. So she would probally be a part of the whole process, but if I decided to try to 'fix it' on my own, I would hope she would support me, at least for a while, before she started to choke me, for not telling her first. LOL!
All I ment was leave this one alone, at least for a while. I must say I did not expect her to listen to me, but I hope she handles it with his ego in mind, if she does confront him. I agree it affects both people involved, but... perhaps I will stop there and repeat I agree with you overall.
Jason
Good luck. I think that it's probably the best thing for the time being. I don't think that it's a bad thing to share this information with each other, but at this point he clearly feels uncomfortable talking about it. I think confronting him would do more harm than good.
To use the example quoted earlier in the thread; it's one thing to be a woman that has had a masectomy and is being encouraged by her Doctor to reveal the scar, it's entirely another thing to be a woman with a masectomy being confronted by her boyfriend dangling her prosthetic bra in one hand and talking about "sharing our problems".
Hey noodlething!
I see both ways of viewing this actually.
Definitely okay to not rock the boat and let things be. Everything is peaceful and enjoyable for now. No need to "risk" scratching is self-image, especially something sensitive like this.
On the other hand, Mrs. Para just told me that she WOULD confront me on this. See, its not the prescription that would be the issue, but the trust factor would be a SUPER issue with us. Every couple is different, YES...so it would depend on what it really is that disturbs you about this...and how much.
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