I just dont like it

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Registered: 11-28-2003
I just dont like it
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 12:09am

Im sure this question has been on here before but Im here to ask it again...

Heres the thing, I use to give my boyfriend oral sex. He gives it to me all the time. For about the past year and a half I havent given it to him, and I just honestly dont wnat to! The thought of it completely grosses me out! When he ejaculates, I am also completely grossed out about touching the stuff and need to get it off me right away. The smell, the feel....everything is disgusting to me! I didnt use to be this way so I dont know what my deal is.... any ideas??

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Registered: 06-19-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 12:23am

hello peachy... im not very much help but i can say that im in the exact same position as you are... how ever mine came about a little differently.. once i got pregnant thats when the whole thing came about and now 3 years after im still dealing with it.. its something i try to deal with some days are ok some days are very very un okay...

just thought it might help that some one else is dealing with it and you arent alone!

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 12:25am
I don't love him getting off into my mouth, the texture grosses me out, but I love giving him a bj...so what I do is, I give him oral until the second he ready to blow and then I finish him off with my hand. Every now and then I'll let him cum in my mouth but not often. Another we like is for him to cum on my breasts.
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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 7:53am

Has anything changed in the last year or so that has turned you against it?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 1:00pm

Welcome to the board peachykeen81.

It sounds like you have either developed a dislike or never really liked this in the first place. How did you feel about it when you were doing it before? Often, in a new relationship, sex is more exciting, and I wonder if that could have something to do with the change in your attitude.

I'm sure that he would love to be receiving oral pleasure, but I also know that he would not like a reaction as if his cum is gross or disgusting. Since you don't like it on you either, have you thought about trying flavored condoms? There are also flavored lubes, but you would have to determine where he would cum while using those. Remember, oral doesn't have to be to completion either. It could be part of foreplay, and then you could switch to intercourse as the main course.

Personally, I would give the condoms a try. Perhaps if you use them for a while, your feelings toward giving him oral will change. You could always try new things then.



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 1:08pm

Welcome to the board reverofnsyawla. Very cleaver twist on your screen name!

I know a lot of things change with pregnancy. I ate foods that I normally hate, and couldn't stomach some of my favorites! Since your distaste for giving your DH oral happened just after you got pregnant, I would think it was because of your hormones and the pregnancy. Perhaps the taste didn't set well with you, or perhaps you were more likely to gag during that time. If you can think about what seemed different back then, you could probably get a handle on this and turn it around.

I mentioned the flavored condoms to peachy. Those may be a good option for you too. I forgot to mention in my post to her that the flavored condoms are available in my area in the drug store. I think being able to find them in a regular store (where other condoms are sold) is helpful in picking some up to try.

If you give it a try, I hope you'll follow up here and let us know how it goes.



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Registered: 10-28-2006
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 5:03pm

Hi peachy,

I'm wondering if maybe your thinking about it to hard.
You can analyze things to the point of discust. How did
you think about it befor? I bet he wouldn't care if you
didn't go to completion. Or does it just bother you all the
way around???

Kareese

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Registered: 06-24-2004
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 5:03pm

Well form a guy's point of view,

B/J's are great, but I have always had more respect for others to want them to do anything they did not like. SOoooo try this ( I assume you are on the pill and exclusive). Start with a hand job, and emphasize you want him to cum in you -- I used to love hearing that catch phrase -- perhaps you take in your mouth or not but tell him you want him to finish inside of you. IF there is some little accident, you can't hide you face if you really don't like it, so offer a small white lie i.e. your diet must have changed ( like used motor oil is not the same as new oil or if you like the oil in a deep fat fryer) diet really does affect the taste and texture. Be honest to a point but tactful. Keep a towel under your side of the bed think of like cleaning out the turkey before you put it in the oven -- gross but the turkey is still good. Have a towel, and as you wipe your self and him off go ahead and make a small face (and if you feel daring a small joke) gross but well worth it or something like you are well worth it or etc...

Pretty soon all you have to do is show him the towel and he will think of getting lucky.

Jason

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