I miss the sex!!!
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| Sat, 01-22-2005 - 9:20pm |
OK, i just broke up (1 1/2 to 2 weeks ago) with my boyfriend, who also happened to be the first guy I majorly fooled around and had sex with. After having sex with him the first time, it became a regular thing and I LOVED IT! Now, since we broke up (no hard feelings, and no regrets), I keep thinking about sex (with him). Is this normal? I mean, I am soooo preoccupied with sexual fantasies about this guy. I do find myself 'craving' the other types physical contact we had (hugging, kissing, cuddling) but I REALLY miss the sex. I'm only 19 and I feel like some pushing-thirty character off of a sitcom! AND, I'm afraid I won't be able to control myself around the next guy who comes along and can 'ring my bells' and end up with a rep. Maybe I'm just being paranoid... but I am so (sexualy) frustrated!!!
Did anyone else feel like this when they were new to sex?

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I suppose what I meant when I said my sex drive was crazy into my late thirties was that I used to experience periods of PREOCCUPATION with sexual
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Yes, I'm still having sex with the old guy.
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Like you, my "preoccupation" w/ sex started about 8 months ago--I just turned 42. I could do it every day easily and think about it quite a lot (why do you think I check out these message boards?) Fortunately my husband is pretty accomodating...
Do you think it is just hormones? I don't think my stress level is any less now than before. Nor have my children left the nest...
to the original poster:
Many, many years ago when I was 19 I had sex w/ a guy I didn't know very well, because he was very attractive and wanted me, and I had broken up w/ my first serious boyfriend (the first guy I had sex with) only a few months earlier and I missed the physical aspects of sex.
Trust me, it wasn't worth it. It was physically OK (not great, just OK) but mentally, it wasn't worth it. I learned my lesson: I can't do casual sex.
Take your time. Someone you really like will come along.
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