I need FE advice!
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| Wed, 12-26-2007 - 2:28pm |
I don't know if I'm posting this on the correct board, maybe I'll put it on a few.
I hope you experienced FE'ers can help me work this out. I have learned how to do this on my own while Dh was out of town (using a dildo). I have managed to do it with his help (using IC in place of the dildo), but the results were not as impressive as they were when I was alone. Dh is kind of bumming because he wants to make me squirt using his fingers/oral. When I'm alone, it is like a geyser and I can do it about 4 times or so, but with him, it is a smaller stream and once is it. ANd it takes A HUGE amount of effort from both of us. Not that I'm complaining about that, it is definitely a great way to spend the time!
I'm sure that I'm suffering some kind of performance anxiety, but I'm just wondering if anyone has any ideas or advice for me about this. Since I am new to this too, I can't really tell him what I need from him and the couple of times we've tried he is asking me whether he's doing it right, if he's in the right spot, etc. I don't think he gets that that alone is kind of distracting to me. :)
I wonder if I should post this in taboos or on the O board?
TIA!

I think it is performance anxiety. I first started FEing during intercourse. It wasn't until very recently that I was able to do it with a toy (with DH in control), and I've yet to do it during oral. It's a hang up on my part -- hubby would love for it to happen.
Also, this is a newer experience for me (been happening since about March of this year), and an even newer experience for you. I think time will help. I know when I first started FEing, it took much more concentration. Now, it sometimes takes concentration to not FE. The more time that passes, the more comfortable I become with it.
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