I NEED HELP

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2007
I NEED HELP
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Tue, 06-05-2007 - 12:20am
IM 25 AND MAR/2 KIDS. I DONT THINK I HAVE EVER HAD AN ORGASM.
EVERY TIME IM ALMOST THERE I MAKE HIM QUIT. I DONT KNOW WHY.
I HAPPY WITH THAT. BUT NOW I WANT TO KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE.
CAN ANYONE HELP ME.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: misty_smith
Tue, 06-05-2007 - 7:39am
Don't make him stop!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: misty_smith
Tue, 06-05-2007 - 7:44am

Welcome to the board Misty (love the name)!

Have you ever had an orgasm while masturbating? It sounds like you have not. Perhaps you are making him stop because you are unsure of what to expect. If I were you, I would try to become familiar with my own body, and what works for you. Experience an orgasm either solo while exploring your body, or let your husband keep going instead of stopping him.

For whatever reason, you're stopping yourself. Just relax and think of the enjoyment, don't be self-conscious, and see where it takes you.



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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2007
In reply to: misty_smith
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 12:34am

I DONT KNOW WHY I STOP HIM. I USED TO THINK I WAS HAVE AN ORGASM BUT NOW I DONT
THINK I EVER HAD ONE. WHEN I GET TO A PONT I STOP HIM.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: misty_smith
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 9:28am

This is why it's important to learn about your own body. Often, your clitoris may become too sensitive, and direct stimulation is almost painful. While that sensation may help one person actually achieve an orgasm, it could deter another. Everyone is different. I suspect, if you are stopping him, that you are becoming too sensitive. You could try to fight your urge to stop him and see where that takes you, but I still think it's better if you learn how your body responds to stimulation. Also, get your mind wrapped around a fantasy.

This site, the-clitoris.com, is also very helpful at explaining how the female system works. You should check it out. Also, here's a Q&A that you might find helpful:

Why Can't I Have an Orgasm?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drruth_qr4q,00.html



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Registered: 07-17-2006
In reply to: misty_smith
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 3:18pm
do you make him stop because there's so much pressure when he's thrusting that you can't withstand it anymore?
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Registered: 06-04-2007
In reply to: misty_smith
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 4:57pm
I DONT KNOW WHY I STOP HIM.I JUST FEEL LIKE I CANT TAKE IT NOMOORE.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2006
In reply to: misty_smith
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 5:20pm
is it like painful? or does he thrust so deep/fast/hard that you can't help but shove him away? because i used to have that problem. but usually if you wait it out, an orgasm can happen..
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Registered: 06-04-2007
In reply to: misty_smith
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 6:17pm

NO ITS NOT PAINFUL. ITS LIKE IT FEELS TO GOOD TO LET HIM FINSH.