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| Wed, 07-02-2008 - 6:46pm |
my boyfriend cannot get me off. no matter what he does, it seems like nothing works. we've tried oral sex, fingering, penetration, but nothing seems to work. after the first two times this happened, i was embarrassed and for some reason decided that the best thing to do was to fake it. now i'm stuck. a little background: i've known the guy for a year, and we've been dating for a month and a half. i'm attracted to him, and during foreplay i do get wet, but it never goes any further than that. when he goes down on me its like i can't feel anything, there's no...excitement, i guess,

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Welcome to the board, buttercup510.
Well, you've already learned that faking it can lead to some bad situations. It's likely that when he learns about this, he'll be a bit upset.
What are you thinking when you're with him? Are you worried that he'll know you're faking, wondering if he'll be able to satisfy you, or wishing he would do something different than he's doing? Your mind can really work against you, especially if you're worrying or thinking about other things.
What are you doing when he's doing things to you? During oral, are you laying back and letting him go down on you, or during intercourse is he always taking the lead? Maybe adding some zing to the event will get your mind where it needs to be, and get him more aroused -- a win/win situation for both of you.
There is a chance that the two of you just don't work together, sexually, but in general, when things aren't working well, you need to look at the role that both of you are taking. Like if you're laying back during oral, perhaps you should try sitting up, or straddling him for a different feel. With intercourse, try different positions, maybe even introduce toys. Have you touched yourself during intercourse, the way you like to be touched? That's something else that should heat things up.
Here are a couple of articles you might find helpful also:
Should Women Fake Orgasms?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/whathethinks/0,,answerman_8clw,00.html
"Why are my orgasms more intense during masturbation?"
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638353_634298,00.html
Good luck with getting things turned around. Keep us posted on how you're doing.
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Hi Buttercup510,
You reallly like this guy and he is wonderful and a great person and totally admirable, but could it be that there is no sexual attraction, no chemistry between the both of you?
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