I need to know what to do

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Registered: 12-15-2004
I need to know what to do
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Sun, 01-09-2005 - 10:54pm

my name is Cedric my fiancee and I have been together for years. I've never asked her but I know it makes her puke. She would rather go down on a girl than me. Is there anything I can do?

My e-mail address is CedricSmith20042006@yahoo.com

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 11:58pm
Since she finds it disgusting, there's not much you can do but get used to living without oral sex. It's her choice. Maybe she's really into girls, not guys.
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Registered: 12-15-2004
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 5:41am
Yeah your right. But maybe once were married she'll change her mind. I'll run it buy her one night. Maybe when I go to her house this weekend. I'm outta town right now so I don't know what goes on there except when my brother tells me.I think she's scared to cuz she's a vigin with guys you know. She's never been with one. It's weird. Maybe your right maybe she is into girls. No what am I saying her mom would kill her. Although my sister has been calling her, and staying with her an awful lot here lately. I'll get to the bottom of this. Either one of them would tell me. Can you help me again.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 7:42am

Am I right in saying you are the b/f of the person with the IM name of snake lover in the following


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 4:56pm

How old is this girl? She sounds very immature, and she sure doesn't know much about men, and life.

If you think it will change when you get married, I'm sorry, but you're in for a rude awakening. Making it legal doesn't change the fact that she thinks it's gross. Marriage doesn't fix problems......problems need to be fixed BEFORE the marriage, or they'll still be there after the marriage.

IF she's a lesbian, and she might be, it's HER problem if her Mom would kill her, not your problem. Until you clear up THAT question, you're not going to solve your other problems. Do you want to get married and then find out that she prefers women?

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Registered: 12-15-2004
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 6:49am

Tish,

Yeah she's bi!! Why? It don't bother me if I get the oral. It bothers me not knowing weather my sister is getting it. I guess I could check in her journal. Would that be bad??????

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 7:38am

I asked if she's bi because she might prefer to be with a woman instead of a man.


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