I need other's POVs

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Registered: 10-14-2007
I need other's POVs
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Sun, 10-14-2007 - 11:04am

My husband and I are having a very rocky time....have been for the past three years.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 11:48am

Welcome to the board trouble_in_love. I think counseling sounds like a great way to work on some of the issues you're having. Hopefully you'll be able to get into counseling before more problems develop, or more resentment builds.

I don't think a person should judge your love based on what sexual acts you will or will not perform. What you do sexually, needs to be your own decision. It's fine for him to let his wants and desires be known, and it's fine for you to offer to try something you may not think you would enjoy. As far as him being upset that you offered to try it once to fulfill his fantasy, I think he's being ridiculous. First off, by trying it one time, you may even change your view of it.

I don't think people should be closed minded to new sexual activities, and I think offering to try something is a great way to compromise. It shows you are considering his feelings, and you are doing something that you wouldn't otherwise do. I don't think that doing something you don't feel comfortable doing is a testament of love. While I don't think him asking you to do something new or different is disrespectful, it does sound like he is being disrespectful in expecting you to do this on a regular basis for him and by letting your decision dictate your love for him (in his mind).













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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 7:15pm

I think you're right.

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Registered: 05-30-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 9:14am

I agree with you 100%. I don't like facials either. I don't feel I should have to explain why I don't, it's just something I rather not do. My DH understands & has never pressured me into doing it. I think I do a lot of stuff that other people might not do so one "little" thing should not be an issue. Lucky for me my DH is fine with that. I think your husband is absolutely wrong on trying to guilt you into doing that or anything else you may not want to do. He needs to just get over it!


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Registered: 11-30-2005
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 11:12am

The issue you raise is one of the most difficult ones for most couples--the relative rights and responsibilities of each member of