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| Thu, 06-21-2007 - 9:25pm |
okay so i have a few questions one i want to know why when my boyfriend and i have sex he can only go once and then gets soft is there anything i can to do to keep him going and is it normal also do guys cum faster if a girl is tighter.......do guys like it better if a girl is tighter or looser

It is absolutely normal for a guy to lose his erection when he's finished. That's the way guys are made. Some guys can wait a few minutes and start again, some have to wait an hour....some even longer.
Make sure he satisfies you with foreplay before intercourse, and it won't bother you if he can't last long enough, or can't get another erection.
Guys finish as fast or as slow as they have to. Again, some last longer, some don't last very long (but they can train themselves to last longer) and some take way TOO long. Every guy is different, and even the same guy can be different at different times.
Guys like it any way....and unless you've got a damaged vagina, it will only be as loose as it needs to be. If you're not properly aroused, you can be tight and dry, and both of you will be unhappy. Tighter or looser has nothing to do with how quickly they finish.
Welcome to the board baybee19.
It's completely "usual" for guys to go limp after they ejaculate. Depending on his age, his recovery time will change. If you're young, he will probably be able to achieve and maintain another erection in about 10 - 15 minutes. During that time, he can still participate in sexual acts that don't require an erection (like oral or manual stimulation for you); although it is nice to bask in the afterglow of an orgasm, at least for a few minutes.
As long as a guy feels friction during intercourse, he likes where he's at. Some of that can be controlled by using your PC muscles during intercourse. By contracting them, they will tighten around him. The feel of tightness is also affected by the amount of lubrication and his erection. Not all erections are equal -- even on the same guy. If he's tired, or it's your third go 'round, he will usually not be as hard.
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>>he can only go once and then gets soft is there anything i can to do to keep him going<<
Like the others have said, it's just the way guys are. Usually they go soft after they cum and it can take them anything from a couple of minutes to days to get hard again. It varies from guy to guy, and the older they get the longer it takes - usually. Each guy is different and these are only guidelines, not hard and fast rules. For example, many guys that normally get soft after cumming find that they stay hard once in a while.
You will probably find that he gets quite sensitive after cumming, but after he's had a few minutes to rest and if he's interested in trying to get hard again, you could probably help by giving him a hand or oral sex. Most guys find that they need a bit of extra stimulation to get hard the second time. And its not unusual for the second erection to be a bit softer than the first.
>>do guys like it better if a girl is tighter or looser<<
I'd have to say that it feels better tighter, but there is not really such thing as bad or too loose. Did you know that you can be too tight?! Generally speaking, it all feels great.
How you get tight depends on a lot of things. The size of his penis, how big you are, how lubricated you are, whether or not you know how to use your "PC" muscles that are inside your body, what positions you use.... all sorts of things.