I need some HELP, PLEASE!!
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I need some HELP, PLEASE!!
| Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:09pm |
Ok before i ask the question i just want to say all of the things that i have said before has allllll
| Fri, 04-18-2008 - 10:09pm |
Have you talked to him about what is going on? I would start by talking with him outside of the bedroom, letting him know that you feel there must be something wrong and that you want/need more out of your relationship. If you're accusatory in your tone/questions, then it will likely make him shut down.
It may even take more than one conversation to get him to open up.
Keep talking to us here about what is going on -- we're more than happy to help.
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Depending on how he's feeling and/or how you're bringing the subject up can both have a lot to do with his reaction.
You mention that at least one of your kids is with him 24/7. What else is he doing with his life? If he's not working, or doesn't have something going on to make him feel like a productive human, then he might be depressed as well. Also, taking care of a child can be very demanding. Mom's often go through a loss of libido when they have young children to tend to. They loose themselves in the demands of their life, and it starts dragging them down. It could be he's in a similar situation there. The advice we recommend to men all the time when they deal with this is to make sure their partner has time for themselves. Do things to make their partner feel relaxed, appreciated, wanted, needed, desired, etc.
It can be very difficult to change gears from parent to lover. If by saying "I just need to stay on top of it and let him know that I'm serious", you mean putting pressure on him to have sex, it's not likely to work. Now, if you mean stay on top of making him feel loved and desired, that may work.
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Have you had a chance to talk to him this past week?
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You can tell him 500 times a day, or 1000 times a day.......all that's going to do is drive him crazy.