I really dont understand why many guys

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Registered: 11-09-2003
I really dont understand why many guys
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Sat, 09-09-2006 - 1:39pm

think...Im a weird girl because I don’t like sex or because Im still a virgin at my age and hasn’t slept with a man before. I have more than 30 yrs old but less than 40 and people say Im pretty and how come Im still a virgin so some chat friends I have on the net ask me is it because I don’t like sex if sex is the most normal thing in life. Some guys say that sex is the most normal thing why some people are not having it, if is part of the human nature and it is natural so they ask me if is so normal why Im not having sex and why I don’t like sex. I have told them that it is not that I don’t like sex it is simply that sex has to be enjoyed mutually, I wont sleep with a guy just for sleeping out of nothing but most guys say, of course not, sex it is more enjoyable only if there is attraction to have sex, even if you don’t like the girl period. Also they say that I’m missing a wonderful and basic experience of the human being. That I should have sex and make the decision soon to have sex because Im more than 30 yrs old.
I mean guys only think in the sex issue that is why perhaps they say that to me, right?

Why guys are like that??????? We are not pieces of meat!

I mean if a girl don’t dress sexy, people say other guys won’t notice her and they wotn start to get interested in you. But then If a woman dress very sexy of course a guy will notice her you but in the “physically issue” only not because they like you for who you are but then again if you dress way too sexy you look like a tramp and you don’t want to look like a tramp to meet guys

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 6:33am

I saw a documentary about that a couple of months ago - men and women claiming to have no sexual desires and declaring that they were the "third" sex - no sex. Many of them talked about sex like a straight man would talk about having gay sex - with some disgust and horror - and even amusement. At the end of the program it said that the two founding members of the group had "gone there", together, and consequently quietly stepped down from active duties in the group (even though their names remained on the website)....


I don't know. I'm sure that some people can go through life without much in the way of sexual desire but that would be rare. I think that the majority of these people just aren't doing it right or have had something in their upbringing that makes them deny or avoid sexual feelings.

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Sat, 09-16-2006 - 11:51am

"I don't know. I'm sure that some people can go through life without much in the way of sexual desire but that would be rare..

You didnt know my ex...lol

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