i really want him to heal....quickly!!!

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i really want him to heal....quickly!!!
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 1:58am

hey there!

my boyfriend and i have been sleeping together for the last past 6 months. For the first 3 at least we were completely wild, having sex multiple times a night. Somewhere around the 5 month, he began to feel stinging sensations whenever we would have sex...or even when i used my mouth on him. A week later small cuts began to show, and the area under the head of his penis turned red. My man isnt circumsized, and im not sure if that would have any effect. But he describes the redness as almost like a friction burn.

Its been more than a month now, and nothing seems to be healing, and its really hurting our relationship sexually.

Has anyone ever heard about this or have any info or ideas on how to move along the healing process?

thanks a bunch!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 3:53am
I'd suggest that he see his doctor. Abrasions generally heal within a couple of days.
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 7:14am

He needs to see a doctor about it.


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Registered: 01-14-2006
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 7:38am
Perhaps you are due for a visit for a dental checkup.
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 10:09am

To heal, first he needs to know what's causing it. A normal cut or abrasion would heal in a few days. This is NOT normal, and he needs to see a doctor. There could be many causes, from an allergy to your fluids, or you might have a mild yeast or bacterial infection, or he could have some kind of infection or STD.

He needs to get healed, but "wanting" him to heal is NOT going to do it. He needs a medical exam and advice.

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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 10:29am
there is no infection or anything....nothing like that. They happened because i am too small, and sometimes he has trouble getting inside of me. One time, we didnt use enough lubrication and that is how it happened
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 11:13am

It doesn't matter what caused it, or what you THINK caused it, it's NOT normal for any kind of cuts or abrasions anywhere on your body to NOT heal in a few days.

And, if your vagina is too tight, then he's not giving you enough foreplay, and you're not aroused enough. With proper arousal, you won't be "tight". And being too tight doesn't cause cuts and abrasions on HIM....maybe on you, but not him. It might hurt him, it might make his frenulum sore.....but cuts and abrasions, I don't think so.

He needs to see a doctor to see why it's not healing.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 11:30am

Agreeing with Dakine, he needs to see a doctor about it.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 2:39pm
Agreeing with the others. Slow healing wounds of any kind can indicate diabetes or repeated injury. He needs to see why these aren't healing properly and you two need to use lubrication.
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 7:06pm

How often are you having sex now?

If it is damage from a lack of lubrication, and vigorous mouth and hand work, then Yeah, it's probably just wear and tear caused by friction and overuse. Because you have lots of sex on a daily basis the wear and tear doesn't get a chance to heal and is actually made a little worse every day. If he lays off the sex, washes gently, carefully and gently dries his penis, and doesn't touch it a few days the situation should improve and the abrasions should begin to heal. Being uncircumsized shouldn't make much of a difference. Like any normal abrasion healing should begin if it gets a chance to rest.

However, if he has something like thrush, some of the medical conditions one of the other posters mentioned, or it's NOT just normal abrasions then it won't heal easily.

If it was me, I'd do the washing and not touching, no sex or masturbation thing for a three or four days and see if there is any improvement. When you resume having sex I would make sure that it doesn't get rough and see how that goes. Don't have intercourse if you aren't lubricated. Perhaps you could get a bottle of lube. Be gentle if you are giving him oral or using your hands.

If there isn't any improvement within a few days, go to the Doctor!

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Registered: 12-07-2005
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 5:24pm
you really think that a small vagina would cause cuts on a penis? What have you got razor blades down there? SEriously, he needs to go to the dr...i cant imagine what it could be

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