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i suck on top
| Tue, 07-03-2007 - 1:53am |
ok.. i consider myself pretty experienced and actually good at sex EXCEPT when im on top... i dont really enjoy it very much, id much rather have the man on top. i cant seem to find the right position and motion and it seems like everything i try, he doesnt like. i have tried many times but usually its a waist of time when im on top. occationally (but not very often) ill get it right after adjusting quite a bit and hes pleased, but even when he is pleased it doesnt feel like anything to me. i hate to make him do all the work but its just so exhausting and i cant enjoy it. i really want us to enjoy me being on top because right now im feeling like a lazy lover. i just dont know how to do it! i dont know how much you can help.. but ill take what i can get.

Welcome to the board shelbonis.
For many, WOT is a position for the female and not the male. His stimulation is mainly derived from watching you in a pleasurable state, and the entire visual package of everything he gets to see with you in this position. Your pleasure comes from your movement, which isn't necessarily bouncing up and down. By grinding on him, your clitoris can be stimulated by his pubic bone, or if in reverse cowgirl position, his balls can actually stimulate you.
I have shorter legs, and actually place a pillow on either side of my DH to raise me a bit for this position. It takes a lot of the stress off of my legs as well. I'm including links to a couple of articles that you might also find helpful.
Hot tips for women on top: http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drpatti_72j6,00.html
How to master the woman on top position: http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638358_591195,00.html
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