I think my labia are too big :(

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I think my labia are too big :(
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 8:35pm
I have ALWAYS had issues with this....my inner lips protude alot and I'm so self conscious about them. Do men think that large lips are ugly? I wish I didnt have such a complex about this. Usually I am so good about loving the way I look. My boyfriend has never said he didnt like them, but when I told him how I worried about how I looked he was just like "oh hon...." I wish he had sais, "no baby I love them". Ugghhh.

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 9:25pm
Don't worry about it. Mine are a little "long" & I used to think I was a little weird, but the only time it's been an issue is early in our relationship when DH tried to penetrate me without enough lube (they stuck to his penis & got pulled in toward my vagina---ouch). so that never happened again, we just know I need enough lube. But as for how it looks, DH has never complained. I guess it's the same as penis length--it's not the shape or size, it's how you use it. Besides, if your man loves you, he'll want you no matter what you look like :-)
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 10:44pm

Don't be self-concious about it. LOTS of women have long labia, it's really common and just part of the normal variation in size and shape of body parts. Guys love labia in all shapes and sizes. To them, it's about as distressing as admitting that you have brown hair when you think that you should probably be blonde.

Interestingly enough, for many years, men's magazines couldn't show women's labia in the girlie photos. It went back to an old censorship law that said that you couldn't show men or women's genitals. Now with men they all kinda just stick out there, but with women people argued that a woman's genitals were inside her body - unseen. But then some clever person pointed out that labia were part of the genitals. So the magazines had to resort to airbrushing out any visible labia! So for decades, what was very normal was actually prohibited, and it was probably giving thousands of people the completely wrong idea of female anatomy.

Edited to add:
Personally, I think that prominant labia are great. Nothing quite as enjoyable as licking and gently sucking on them! :-)




Edited 7/13/2005 12:08 am ET ET by westridge2001
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Tue, 07-12-2005 - 11:41pm

How many others have you seen? What do you have to compare to? Just like men's genitals, they come in all kinds of sizes, shapes, colors and configurations. Do men like that? There is NOTHING that ALL men like.......and as far as labia are concerned, I doubt if there are many men who CARE what size they are......they're interested in what's between them! When they get that close, they're NOT inspecting.....they're going for it.

Of course, you COULD save up about $10,000.00 and have them surgically reduced. Seriously, no one but you worries about the size of your labia. Be glad everything you have is in working condition, and don't sweat the small stuff!

If you want to see a variety of sizes and shapes, check out www.the-clitoris.com

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Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:32am
I second GTB's suggestion to visit www.the-clitoris.com and also suggest checking out a book called "Femalia." It pictures nothing but unretouched, natural female genitalia. No surgical enhancement, no nothing. You'll be amazed at the vast variety there are....and how normal YOU are!
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 1:19am
Hey liquidlover,
You have NOTHING to worry about my dear. In fact, outies (as I call ladies like yourself) are BY FAR my favorite type of labia. I think they are wonderful. I absolutely love how they hang outside of the inner lips and most ladies like yourself are brownish-purple towards the tips but growing progressively pinker as they move inward. Lovely! Opening them up wide looks like a butterfly to me. And kissing them and pulling them into my mouth to suck on them gently and tongue them - now that is as good as it gets. So no, stop worrying about them - they are truly a gift to alot of us guys. Sure are to me!
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 3:35am

I quite agree.

I'm happen to be a hetero girl, but I *still* remember seeing protruding labia in one of my ex's girlie mags and getting very turned on. After all those edited images, it was so refreshing to see something different.

You see, they don't just edit labia in porn, but they also edit colour. Any florid looking vulvas are toned down too, along with uneven bits. The end result being that they all look somewhat similar.

As far as plastic surgery goes....I have heard that it's worthwhile if they are so long as to be annoying when wearing jeans. But anything less is nothing to worry about.

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Wed, 07-13-2005 - 8:16am
I, for one, really like large labia. This reminds me of an incident some years ago. I was dating a woman who was a waitress in an English themed restaurant, and had a "wench" uniform. She walked into my livingroom once wearing only the bodice of her uniform, her breasts and genitals exposed. She asked me if I would like some dessert. Her labia were long and protruding, and to say the least I responded. Yes, we did share dessert.
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Registered: 01-02-2005
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:50pm

This is not something you need to be self-conscious about.

We guys adore labia in all sizes, all shapes.

And by the time you let us get that far, that we actually get to feel or see them, we're so far gone that we wouldn't have an opinion anyway. By that point, all we want is to get between them !

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Registered: 04-06-2005
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 7:26pm

Thank you all for your kind words. They really helped to reassure me, as did the link to the pictures.


I think that porn, how women look in magazines is so different to the way I look is what initially stirred these feelings. I don't want to go as far as surgery so I better just get over it, lol. Thank you to everyone again.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Thu, 07-14-2005 - 9:39am

Comparing yourself to women in porn, or even women in "womens" magazines is dangerous territory. They are surgically enhanced, and the pictures are touched up to either enhance or play down various parts.

You are uniquely you. Love what you are, and don't worry about what you perceive to be imperfections. Every human being has them.

As for your specific "problem".....as you can see by the responses, men love a woman's vulva, and they don't "inspect" it or compare it. The same goes for breast size, weight, hair color, or anything else. When a man finds a woman that he's attracted to....he'll love her, warts and all!

The important thing is to love yourself. If you don't, no one else will because you'll be giving off bad vibes. "Oh, how can you love me, I'm so (fat, skinny, tall, whatever)". What's MUCH more important is what's inside. If you're a good person, and you make HIM feel good......that's all he's concerned about.

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