I want to be sexy for my guy,

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Registered: 07-25-2005
I want to be sexy for my guy,
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Mon, 07-25-2005 - 12:37pm
but he's more the conservative type. What's a girl to do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-25-2005 - 2:21pm

Well, there are two of you in the relationship, so even though HE'S more conservative, doesn't mean that you can't be sexy for him or that you must completely stifle your more adventurous desires. But sexy is less about looks or clothes and more about attitude. Many men actually find a buttoned up, no skin showing, conservative look on women very sexy!

Find a compromise between the two approaches, that you both can live with, and introduce some of your kinkier ideas slowly. However, he may or may not be open to all of them. Alot will depend on how those things are presented, too.




Edited 7/25/2005 2:23 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 06-14-2002
Mon, 07-25-2005 - 2:44pm

I am a guy, but I need more information. What does he not like or complain about? Does he not like you to dress sexy ? Act Sexy ? Does it bother you if you dress/act sexy in public? In Private ?

CH

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Mon, 07-25-2005 - 7:57pm

LOL! Just because he's conservative doesn't mean that he doesn't like sexy. Some of the most conservative guys are the kinkiest underneath the plain exterior. The biggest trick is to find out what he likes. How (as in what ways is he) conservative he is will have an influence too. Is it a mental-state conservative where he behaves and thinks conservative, or is it more just dress-style?

While he may not like you dressing in revealing clothing or acting overtly sexy in public, there is more to sexy than that. He might like lingerie because you can wear that UNDER a plain conservative exterior. He might be into seeing a hint of cleavage, or nice makeup or even just a certain type of personality. Then again, he might be completely different in the bedroom, in private, away from the public eye. He could fancy swinging from the chandaliers in private...!

How about you ask him one day? Get him to list a few things that he thinks is sexy. Don't dash out and try to do all those things in one day, just file them away for reference and maybe introduce one or two of them every so often.

Pay a little more attention to the women and celebrities that he finds appealing or attractive and analyse what it is about them that they have in common.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 07-25-2005 - 8:57pm

Conservative doesn't mean he doesn't like sexy.


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