I want to hear about your first time...

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I want to hear about your first time...
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Mon, 05-26-2008 - 5:41pm

I want to hear about others' first times. What lead up to the sex itself? Where was it? What position were you in? Did it hurt? Were you sore afterwards?


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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 05-28-2008 - 7:47am

Tricia, thanks for sharing. I wish everyone could have that sort of first experience.

I also had a wonderful "first experience", and it's always been a pleasant memory -- a decision I made that I have always known was the right decision.





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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 05-28-2008 - 7:54am
"Now that we've had vaginal intercourse, I am sooooo ready to try some more fun stuff."

Intercourse can have so many variables, there's still a lot to experiment with there. iVillage has a fun tool, Perfect Position Selector, that can give you some ideas.

Also, since you're new to sex, you might want to take a look at the website, www.the-clitoris.com. It has a lot of great information about the female body and sexual responses.


Do you have certain fun things in mind that you would like to try?




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Registered: 04-24-2008
Wed, 05-28-2008 - 8:14am
My first time was when I was seventeen. I had this guy friend, I guess we were kind of like friends with benefits but not exactly. It's hard to explain. He had been my best friend my whole life and I found him extremely attractive and had a great personality but we just never really discussed dating. Even though most people through high school guessed we were anyway. We had talked quite a lot about having sex over the phone and about getting our first time over with, and he brought up that he wanted me to be his first. He said it was because he knew we would always be close and that at least this way we could say that our first wasn't a regret and it was with someone we truly cared about. I just kinda laughed and shrugged it off at first. Days went as usual, we kissed, played, and just acted normal. But about 2 weeks later we were walking in school together and he asked me if I wanted to skip school. I was already sensing a bad day so I agreed and we drove into the city and I dragged him into the mall and we ate lunch and then as we were heading back home I decided this was the time I wanted it. So kind of spurt of the moment I asked if his house was empty and he said yes, and pretty much immediatly caught on. So we had sex in his room. It wasn't extremely awkward, not as bad as I thought it would be, we did it in missionary. I was really sore for the next day and even though I don't get to see him near enough now and I am with my amazing boyfriend now I still really liked my first time. It was just as I wanted it to be.
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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 8:25am

We all have different experiences. Some people aren't comfortable having their rears exposed -- ever, but most of the people you encounter here are going to be fairly open minded about sex. Personally, I don't know that I would have been up for a rear entry position from the get go, but then again, I didn't think WOT was the natural starting place either.

There really is no right or wrong when it comes to sex and sexual positions so long as both partners are comfortable and in agreement that they will give it a try. A lot of people read the boards, and I think those that have responded about the doggie position are trying to reassure those people that IF they're doing doggie, they aren't doing something wrong.

While it's true that many of us have been having sex for a long time in comparison to you or the OP, that's not what makes us feel that the doggie position is okay. We were all young once, we all had our own first sexual experiences as well. Missionary has never been one of my favorite positions, even early on. I find it very limiting -- but that's my personal opinion and experience. Rear entry positions are very popular, and while they're not for everyone, they are something that I often request. (When I was younger and not as assertive as I am now, I often hoped my partner would suggest doggie. A lot of my fantasies still involve this position.)

You mentioned that if your guy brought it up, you might give it a try. Since there's been so much chat about it here, you might decide you have an interest in seeing what all the racket is about. There's no reason why you can't suggest to your BF that the two of you experiment with positions. (It's likely that he'll find that to be very exciting.) If you do become interested, you might want to read the article below. It offers some variations on the position.

6 Sexy Rear-Entry Positions
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,askmen_bx70nb3r,00.html

Threads often take twists and turns on the message boards. I'm sure some will find this conversation interesting buried within this thread. For those interested in following up more about the doggie position, a member started this poll:

Ladies, How do you feel about the doggie positions?!?!
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=22129.1





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Registered: 02-28-2006
Wed, 05-28-2008 - 10:42am
This was a long time ago, in a galazy far, far away, so the memories are a little faded around the edges. We had friends in common, so we'd known each other for quite some time, but we'd only been "a couple" for a couple of days. During those days we'd spent a lot of time hanging out and talking, and knew it was a matter of "when", not "if", our relationship became sexual. She was my first, but I wasn't hers. We wound up in her dorm room mid-afternoon (she was in a single), and started making out on her bed. Her top came off, and her jeans were unzipped. I seem to recall being in a hurry to get inside her panties, and she slowed me down and made me play with her for a while inside her jeans but outside her panties. After a while, her bra came off, and I slid her jeans and her panties down her legs and off as I also got more undressed. I fingered her for a while, and then tasted a woman for the first time. We had sex in the missionary position, and I remember it being somewhat difficult for me to come, as the stimulation from being inside her vagina was quite different from what I was used to from masturbation. Afterwards we lay in each others arms and cuddled, talking for a while, and then we did it again.

Later on in that same relationship, she was my partner for so many other firsts: first anal, first threesome, first woman I tied up, first time doing it with an audience.


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Registered: 10-04-2006
Wed, 05-28-2008 - 10:44am

Ah Misty...you continue to post real pearls of wisdom. Well said.

Southerngl, I didn't mean to offend, but when I read your post and you said "we all know it's common courtesy to do the missionary" my mind flashed to "Dear Abby" or "Ask Heloise" or something along those lines. Honestly, it took me a full 20 minutes to stop laughing enough to where I could post. And I'm still chuckling.

Now my parents didn't do a whole lot for me sex education wise so it's not odd that they never mentioned the common courtesy part..but in all my time on the planet I have never, ever read nor heard that the missionary position was courteous and that doggie style was a favor the woman gave to the man.

Opening a car door, that's courteous. The man paying for a date...that's common courtesy. And providing or fetching a handkerchief or wash cloth for a lady to use after sex...that's definately courteous.

I believe that missionary is more intimate in that a couple can kiss and look into each others eyes, so perhaps is more appropriate the first time a couple has sex. Maybe that's what you meant, I don't know.

And as far as doggie being a "favor"...Lord Almighty, would my wife disagree with you there. Most vigorously I might add. There are places inside her wonderous female anatomy that missionary can't touch given our particular mix of sexy bits. And I can assure you, it's not something I had to "teach her to like". She came that way.

Now, to address the point of this thread and to atone for my misdeeds I'll share a little of my first time.

I was spending the summer with some relatives, they had me housed up in the attic with three young ladies my age.

Silly them.


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Registered: 03-16-2007
Wed, 05-28-2008 - 11:09am
Ah, the first time. A long time ago, in a place far far away (note to Steve, same galazy as this one, mind you, lol). I was 20 and beginning to worry that it was never going to happen when I wanted it. I had turned down several beforehand, who wanted it with me, but I didn't with them. I think for a first time, knowing that I had said "no!" several times beforehand helped make it clear to me that this was the right person, and the right time.

New Year's Eve, 1975 it was. It rang in 1976 in the nicest possible way.

And I think that those are more important things than worrying about which position to try it in. You used protection, that was also the right thing to do, you were the one ready with it, as well, if I understand correctly. Smart girl.

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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 11:13am
The advantage of doggy for him, of course, is that I can then bite into the pillow to stop screaming, rather than biting his shoulder or giving him a reason to wear collared shirts in warm weather - oooops! lol

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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 11:42am

"giving him a reason to wear collared shirts in warm weather"

Uhhhh...I wouldn't know anything about that. Nope.

Why is my nose growing?


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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 12:03pm
My first time was unplanned. My ex boyfriend and I were getting ready to go out. As a typical evening, before we left, his member wanted/needed some "special attention" . Of course Cherron' was to happily oblige his request. So it started off harmless oral fun, then he wanted more that particular night. I was "ready" but wanted my first time to be special and planned. Plus, my sister was due home any minute and I was afraid she would walk in on us in the living room. Before short of climaxing, he stopped me, stood me up and ripped my pants and panties off, bent me over on the couch right by the front door, and did me doggie style.


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