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I want to hear about your first time...
| Mon, 05-26-2008 - 5:41pm |
I want to hear about others' first times. What lead up to the sex itself? Where was it? What position were you in? Did it hurt? Were you sore afterwards?
I just had sex for the first


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Tricia, thanks for sharing. I wish everyone could have that sort of first experience.
I also had a wonderful "first experience", and it's always been a pleasant memory -- a decision I made that I have always known was the right decision.
Intercourse can have so many variables, there's still a lot to experiment with there. iVillage has a fun tool, Perfect Position Selector, that can give you some ideas.
Also, since you're new to sex, you might want to take a look at the website, www.the-clitoris.com. It has a lot of great information about the female body and sexual responses.
Do you have certain fun things in mind that you would like to try?
We all have different experiences. Some people aren't comfortable having their rears exposed -- ever, but most of the people you encounter here are going to be fairly open minded about sex. Personally, I don't know that I would have been up for a rear entry position from the get go, but then again, I didn't think WOT was the natural starting place either.
There really is no right or wrong when it comes to sex and sexual positions so long as both partners are comfortable and in agreement that they will give it a try. A lot of people read the boards, and I think those that have responded about the doggie position are trying to reassure those people that IF they're doing doggie, they aren't doing something wrong.
While it's true that many of us have been having sex for a long time in comparison to you or the OP, that's not what makes us feel that the doggie position is okay. We were all young once, we all had our own first sexual experiences as well. Missionary has never been one of my favorite positions, even early on. I find it very limiting -- but that's my personal opinion and experience. Rear entry positions are very popular, and while they're not for everyone, they are something that I often request. (When I was younger and not as assertive as I am now, I often hoped my partner would suggest doggie. A lot of my fantasies still involve this position.)
You mentioned that if your guy brought it up, you might give it a try. Since there's been so much chat about it here, you might decide you have an interest in seeing what all the racket is about. There's no reason why you can't suggest to your BF that the two of you experiment with positions. (It's likely that he'll find that to be very exciting.) If you do become interested, you might want to read the article below. It offers some variations on the position.
6 Sexy Rear-Entry Positions
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,askmen_bx70nb3r,00.html
Threads often take twists and turns on the message boards. I'm sure some will find this conversation interesting buried within this thread. For those interested in following up more about the doggie position, a member started this poll:
Ladies, How do you feel about the doggie positions?!?!
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=22129.1
Later on in that same relationship, she was my partner for so many other firsts: first anal, first threesome, first woman I tied up, first time doing it with an audience.
Ah Misty...you continue to post real pearls of wisdom. Well said.
Southerngl, I didn't mean to offend, but when I read your post and you said "we all know it's common courtesy to do the missionary" my mind flashed to "Dear Abby" or "Ask Heloise" or something along those lines. Honestly, it took me a full 20 minutes to stop laughing enough to where I could post. And I'm still chuckling.
Now my parents didn't do a whole lot for me sex education wise so it's not odd that they never mentioned the common courtesy part..but in all my time on the planet I have never, ever read nor heard that the missionary position was courteous and that doggie style was a favor the woman gave to the man.
Opening a car door, that's courteous. The man paying for a date...that's common courtesy. And providing or fetching a handkerchief or wash cloth for a lady to use after sex...that's definately courteous.
I believe that missionary is more intimate in that a couple can kiss and look into each others eyes, so perhaps is more appropriate the first time a couple has sex. Maybe that's what you meant, I don't know.
And as far as doggie being a "favor"...Lord Almighty, would my wife disagree with you there. Most vigorously I might add. There are places inside her wonderous female anatomy that missionary can't touch given our particular mix of sexy bits. And I can assure you, it's not something I had to "teach her to like". She came that way.
Now, to address the point of this thread and to atone for my misdeeds I'll share a little of my first time.
I was spending the summer with some relatives, they had me housed up in the attic with three young ladies my age.
Silly them.
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Galileo Galilei
Magenta Starr – would you join me for tea?
Galileo Galilei
Magenta Starr – would you join me for tea?
"giving him a reason to wear collared shirts in warm weather"
Uhhhh...I wouldn't know anything about that. Nope.
Why is my nose growing?
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