I want it all the time...he doesn't!
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I want it all the time...he doesn't!
| Sat, 10-30-2004 - 1:09pm |
I'm 26, he's 37....I want to make love every night! Unfortunately due to our schedules that isn't possible but I would settle for at least three times - some weeks I am lucky to get it more than once a week. I have tried toys, new positions, porn. He doesn't say no to these attempts, it just doesn't increase the frequency.
Also the quality of sex we have is definitely there. He says it is just stress and exhaustion and his age. I don't really have very much to complain about because he is a very considerate lover, but I just have a much, much higher libido than him.
I guess I could accept that because it is the first time I have dated a man his age, but TV, movies, other entertainment media makes it seem as though I am a freak because men are supposed to have to practically beg for it and the roles are reversed in our bedroom.
Does anyone have any suggestions?

<<in our bedroom>>>
I have the higher libido in my marriage and so we compromise on frequency. He provides it a little more often than he might choose on his own and I expect less than I actually might like and take care of myself when needed. And it's worked out nicely for us for over 28 yrs.
Unfortunately, TV and the movies have only perpetuated the myth and added to the confusion, but it's all fantasy. Men can be just as sexually diverse as women are.
Edited 11/1/2004 12:20 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Work stress IS a valid excuse but if it is affecting his life in this way he should consider options to reduce his workload or his stress levels. At the end of the day you are unhappy and might leave him because of this - surely a job isn't worth that? As far as exhaustion and his age? Hmmmm.... I don't think so.
Of course it could be none of this and he just has a lower libido. In which case he can't do too much about it other than getting himself checked by the Doctor and talking to the Doctor about it.
Keep talking to him.
And, No, you're not a freak. It's not uncommon for women to have a higher libido than their man. That's not how men like to see it though! LOL!