I want more than friends with benefits!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-22-2005
I want more than friends with benefits!
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 3:43pm
I met this guy about 3 years ago and I still really like him. We started dating and we had sex on our first date and a few times after that. Eventually when we broke up. But after a year or so we started having sex again (but we werent together at this point). It seems we dont really see each other for a long time, and then we do and end up having sex, but nothing more every seems to arise from this relationship we have. In between we've both dated other people. I dont feel used by him, because I enjoy what we do, but im wondering about the future.
1) Would he ever want to get back together with me even though we've already had alot of sex? (will he have nothing new to look forward to?)
2) If we did get back together, i would want to explore other aspects of a relationship which do not include sex, but how do i do this?
3) Am i just in a big mess and never going to be able to get back together with him?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2005
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 4:30pm
IMO your 1,2,3 needs to be discussed with him because he is the only one with the answers. However, mentally you must prepare yourself to lose it all. These boards have taught me a great lesson in regards to relationships: If I can type my concern here, then I'm ready to discuss it. Typing it, to me, means that you have mentally gone over it a couple of times and you're ready for action/answers. Just know where you stand and exactly what you want/looking for because his replies may not be what you truly want to hear. Good luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 5:24pm
Do the words "booty call" mean anything to you? It sounds like you both are using the other as booty calls. But, if you're wanting something more then you need to tell him this. You just need to sit down and tell him. Nobody here can tell you what he wants because nobody here knows him. Only you do. You need to go to him and find out if you can take your relationship to another level or two. If not, cut your loses and move on.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 05-22-2005 - 5:38pm

1) Would he ever want to get back together with me even though we've already had a lot of sex? (will he have nothing new to look forward to?)


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