i want to please him... HELP!!!!

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Registered: 01-22-2007
i want to please him... HELP!!!!
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 7:26pm

okay. this is sorta embarrassing, but i need advice and i didnt know where else to go!!! so i am 21. ive had sex before, but we were both virgins and kinda freaked out, so it didnt really lead to anything more. since then, that was 4 years ago, i havent been sexually active with anyone. now im to the point in a new relationship that i/we want to take things further. so my problem is... i dont know what to do!!! I dont know how to initiate oral sex on him. i dont know what to do during oral sex. I dont know how to make sure he, and of course I, have a good time during sex. i mean... i want to please him. i dunno what to do!!!! please help me!!!

thanks everyone!!!

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 12:03am

Honesty is the best policy! Tell him that you have no experience, and you need him to guide you. It's not shameful to admit that you don't know what to do.

Even if you're experienced, since all guys (and women) are different, you'd have to ask him what he likes, and how he likes it done, because every new partner is different.

There's no way anyone here can tell you what to do.....so you'll have to ask him to help you, and I'm sure he'll love to do just that. As for what you want and need, you'll just have to figure that out as you go along. Don't be afraid to ask him to do something you'd like him to do, and don't be afraid to ask him what he wants, or if you're doing it the way he likes it.

If you can't talk to him about this, then you're not ready for sex with him or anyone else. For more information about YOUR body and what you need, check out www.the-clitoris.com

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Registered: 01-17-2007
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 11:57am
Honsetly I dont think there is any list of do's and dont's other then the obvious (dont bite, do listen etc...). You will know what do do as things progress...the thing is you 2 have to make it right for yourselves!!! Learn together. Also, as far as initiating oral sex.....honey just do it!!! No man is gonna say no or lecture about your finess!
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Registered: 01-23-2007
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 1:05pm
hey butterfly babe, fist of all i want to tell you, you have nothing to be embarrased about! i was in a simular position once! but i have a boyfriend who i love, and he loves me...this helps because i felt comfortable with him. I would say, only go through with it if your 110% about it. talk to him about it first, tell him you feel inexperienced etc. I would suggest getting both of you in the mood by having a nice romantic night, go out for a meal, or something, go home (if your comfortable with it put some sexy underwear on to make you feel sexy)'cos that is what is most important, you feelin comfortable and sexy! unfortunately there isn't an instruction manual on how to please men! they are all different, but i would deffinatley suggest setting the mood first, then go along with it and do what you feel comfortable with! if you want to give him a blow-job, dont just rush and do it, kiss him passionately, then kiss him from his mouth, down his chest and belly, and tease him abit! go with your instinct, if he does something your not happy with tell him! anyways, ENJOY!!! and most of all HAVE FUN!!! kay xx