I was a virgin and my wife was not

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Registered: 12-20-2004
I was a virgin and my wife was not
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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 12:23pm

Before I was married my wife had three sex partners before me and I have not had any, she was my first. I can deal with the fact that she was not a virgin but it is some of the other things that come up. One day we were sitting here watching a dting show and the were talking about interesting places they have had sex and while watching my wife say I can top them, I have had sex on a bus during the night. I dont know why she had to tell me that now it seems like I feel that I want to have sex on a bus or in public. She said she would never do that with, that upsets me.

I want to know why she had to tell me this and is it normal for me to want to have sex in public and is it wrong to ask her to do that. If you have any ideas or advise please let me know

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Registered: 11-22-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 1:05pm
Why fret about the past? Having sex in public is tons of fun, based on the 2-3 times I've done it, but there is a serious danger of getting caught. While that may be a laughing matter with a gf/bf, with a husband/wife it might be much less dignified. I don't think she's saying she likes you and less than the guy who screwed her on the bus ... good heavens she married ya! Don't worry, she's got your best interests at heart. ;-)
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 1:47pm

It sounds to me like you are trying to compete with your wife's former partners.


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 3:23pm

I agree with Tish....Whatever she did in her past is over and done with, and she certainly didn't show much sense telling you that. You don't have to "compete" with someone who is long gone.

She's a married woman now, and the things she did in her past mean nothing. She was young and foolish.....and she needs to forget about it. Tell her you have no interest in her past.