I like to watch...

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Registered: 03-18-2007
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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 4:38am

...I like being watched. I like doing it outside where other people can see...In the park where kids are playing nearby. In the backyard where the neighbors can catch us. In the car, in the pool, etc. I like dogs watching, I like cats watching. I like the neighbors hearing, I'm loud, I have a high sex drive. I LOVE sex. I can go for hours. I love crazy positions, But, I haven't really tried oral, only for a couple of minutes. But, I will do it.

Even so...I could be what is called sexually inexperienced (only 2 lovers)Now, the guy I was/am dating got very angry (raised his voice)because he was teased one night, I guess he thought he was getting sex that night, but didn't. I did not mean it and I apologized, but it does not seem like he wanted to accept that. Besides that, he said, he just didn't want to have to teach someone (but he was hurt because I didn't reciprocate that night), but we did talk after that and his attitude seemed to have changed.

The thing is, he has been very pushy and demanding about sex. He made it clear that he would use his tongue ANYWHERE to please his woman and to make her cum and he wants his woman to do the same. Well, it's obvious he's talking about "anal rimming" and I don't want to do that. I would consider anal sex, but I just don't think I want my tongue in anyone's a$$hole (but I have no problems recieving it). He also said that he wanted me to masturbate while he was inside of me from behind. Well, I don't know if I want to do that either. SHouldn't that be *my* choice?

So, either he's being demanding, pushy and unreasonable or I'm being a *prude*. Which is it?? Me and him click, we like being together, we have great physical chemistry. Isn't that enough?? What kind of man would throw that away because he wants rimming, toe sucking and whatever else?? Several men have already indicated they think this guy is unreasonable and I agree. I just wanted to hear more opinions, I guess.




Edited 4/28/2007 5:02 am ET by purity2007

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 6:47am

"...we like being together, we have great physical chemistry. Isn't that enough?? What kind of man would throw that away because he wants rimming, toe sucking and whatever else??"

No, that isn't necessarily enough. People in a relationship should be sexually compatible. Sex is a HUGE part of the relationship, and it's not unreasonable for him to have his own sexual interests. It is unreasonable for him to be demanding of you! If you want your relationship to work, the two of you should have a calm, adult conversation about your expectations. If you can't come to a middle ground, then chances are, this isn't the right relationship for you.



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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 1:33pm

cl: 'No, that isn't necessarily enough. People in a relationship should be sexually compatible. Sex is a HUGE part of the relationship, and it's not unreasonable for him to have his own sexual interests. It is unreasonable for him to be demanding of you! If you want your relationship to work, the two of you should have a calm, adult conversation about your expectations. If you can't come to a middle ground, then chances are, this isn't the right relationship for you."

Hi, cl. Thanks for your reply. I agree and no, it doesn't seem like he can have a calm, adult conversation. When I have offended him, he doesn't talk about it until prodded. Instead he just "ghosts" and ignores me until he feels ready to talk.

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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 2:07pm
This guy seems scary to me....if you haven't been dating long and he's already DEMANDING what he WILL be getting....I DON'T THINK SO!!!!
It's your choice, and I know we don't know each other but if you were one of my friends asking my advice I would tell you to run the other way.
Sorry, but that's just the feeling I got from reading your post.
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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 2:31pm
Thanks, Kendra! :) I'm feeling scared too and really think I should run, just wanted to hear more opinions.
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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 3:00pm

I would take a pass on this guy. It is one thing not to talk much but his other views seem very controlling and totally selfish. Take a pass and this advice comes from a guy.

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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 3:54pm
Hi Chicago. I don't think I welcomed you to the board yet. Glad you decided to join in.


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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 5:19pm

Purity, never do anything you dont want to do. I havent read any other responses yet, so I'm sure plenty of people will help you on that issue.

What makes me see red in your post though is about liking to have sex on a playground with kids playing near by. I hope the next time you attempt this, someone calls the cops. I hope you get arrested, and spend some time in jail for such selfish behavior, and we can all look you up on the sex offender registry. If you did it on a playground near my kids, you'd be praying the cops got there in time to save your butt from me and the other angry moms! I know I sound angry, but why do you think you have the right to include other people's children into your fantasies?

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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 5:42pm

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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 12:02am

I think that you are talking the talk, but not walking the walk. You're now discovering that it's getting you into a little bit of trouble.

Am I wrong to assume that you are a bit of a tease and aren't afraid to tell a guy how much you like sex - loud sex, adventerous sex, sex all the time?

I think that you've met a guy that is the male equivalent of you - loud, assertive and he knows what he wants even to the point of being slightly aggressive. Someone that can call your bluff. You are now discovering that there ARE more things out there in the world of sex than you care to try. Unfortunately you've hooked up with a guy that does want to try them and he thinks that you will go along with him.

I think that you're just realising that you've bitten off more than you can chew.

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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 1:40am
Thanks, Chicago. I appreciate your advice and think you are totally right.

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