I like to watch...

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I like to watch...
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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 4:38am

...I like being watched. I like doing it outside where other people can see...In the park where kids are playing nearby. In the backyard where the neighbors can catch us. In the car, in the pool, etc. I like dogs watching, I like cats watching. I like the neighbors hearing, I'm loud, I have a high sex drive. I LOVE sex. I can go for hours. I love crazy positions, But, I haven't really tried oral, only for a couple of minutes. But, I will do it.

Even so...I could be what is called sexually inexperienced (only 2 lovers)Now, the guy I was/am dating got very angry (raised his voice)because he was teased one night, I guess he thought he was getting sex that night, but didn't. I did not mean it and I apologized, but it does not seem like he wanted to accept that. Besides that, he said, he just didn't want to have to teach someone (but he was hurt because I didn't reciprocate that night), but we did talk after that and his attitude seemed to have changed.

The thing is, he has been very pushy and demanding about sex. He made it clear that he would use his tongue ANYWHERE to please his woman and to make her cum and he wants his woman to do the same. Well, it's obvious he's talking about "anal rimming" and I don't want to do that. I would consider anal sex, but I just don't think I want my tongue in anyone's a$$hole (but I have no problems recieving it). He also said that he wanted me to masturbate while he was inside of me from behind. Well, I don't know if I want to do that either. SHouldn't that be *my* choice?

So, either he's being demanding, pushy and unreasonable or I'm being a *prude*. Which is it?? Me and him click, we like being together, we have great physical chemistry. Isn't that enough?? What kind of man would throw that away because he wants rimming, toe sucking and whatever else?? Several men have already indicated they think this guy is unreasonable and I agree. I just wanted to hear more opinions, I guess.




Edited 4/28/2007 5:02 am ET by purity2007
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 1:48am

3 words

get out now

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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 1:51am

I completely agree!!! There is an appropriate time and place for everything and having sex where kids can see is about the most inappropriate place I could think of. Our kids are now adults but if I ever saw that when they were small and I had them at a playground, no telling what I would do but it wouldn't be pretty.

I totally agree

~Meg
mom to a 6 yr. old named River

I had him at 16, they all said I couldn't make...yeah b**ches! I'm walkin' out w/ that college diploma next year in photography, education, and languages.... and also about to publish a book!!! When ya see me, roll out the red carpet ; )

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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 2:21am
What is the correlation between your proclivity toward exhibitionism and this man who has some kinky interests?
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 8:40am

"What is the correlation between your proclivity toward exhibitionism and this man who has some kinky interests?"

In terms of compatibility, the correlation is positive, of course. The problem is his issues that come into play here.

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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 8:41am
Ok, I'd like you women to understand something, in the park around kids means with a blanket around the man and myself, done discretely. If done right, young children don't even know what's going on. I don't wish to traumatize children.
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 9:29am
It's inappropriate, blanket or not.
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 11:23am

"Ok, I'd like you women to understand something, in the park around kids means with a blanket around the man and myself, done discretely. If done right, young children don't even know what's going on. I don't wish to traumatize children."

What? OMG and did I just read you want to be a school psychologist? You better go back and read some books from those classes. YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT to subject anyone else to your fantasies. A small child may not know what you are doing, the parents will, and the older children will. My kids are not stupid, and if a 12 or 13 year old sees you they will know. Go do it at a sex club or the parking lot of a strip club where people wont be offended. Your rights to sexual happiness end at your own doorstep. You cannot do whatever you want wherever you want just because you get off on it. Its illegal, and you are lucky no one has had you arrested or caused you bodily harm. Its not ok. If you get caught exposing yourself to a minor you will be on the registry for life, and your career will be over. Your thought process really scares me as a parent, and I hope something happens to ensure that you do not ever work in the school system with that attitude. Hey, maybe you could indulge your ultimate fantasy and do it at recess on the playground?

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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 1:36pm
I also wanted to add one more thing. If you get caught and convicted, you could be considered a danger to children and you could lose your own children. Have you even condisered that? I just dont think you understand the consequences of an act you think of as harmless to others yet erotic to you.
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 1:54pm
Ok, I don't intend to do anything that jeopardizes my career or my own children. Trust me. Thanks for your concern. :)
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 5:43pm

tish: "It's inappropriate, blanket or not. Young children might not know what's going on but their parents will know, they won't like it and most likely will do something about it. I doubt an indecent exposure and public lewdness arrest would be good on your record."

Tish...you come across as so "open" regarding sex, so I wonder why the overreaction on my thread...How is it "indecent exposure" if me and my man are covered by a blanket?...

People can speculate all they want, but if we are covering ourselves, and not making any loud moaning sex sounds, how can some mother or anyone else cry indecent exposure!! And by the time the police arrive, we will already be done with our pants up.