I like to watch...

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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 4:38am

...I like being watched. I like doing it outside where other people can see...In the park where kids are playing nearby. In the backyard where the neighbors can catch us. In the car, in the pool, etc. I like dogs watching, I like cats watching. I like the neighbors hearing, I'm loud, I have a high sex drive. I LOVE sex. I can go for hours. I love crazy positions, But, I haven't really tried oral, only for a couple of minutes. But, I will do it.

Even so...I could be what is called sexually inexperienced (only 2 lovers)Now, the guy I was/am dating got very angry (raised his voice)because he was teased one night, I guess he thought he was getting sex that night, but didn't. I did not mean it and I apologized, but it does not seem like he wanted to accept that. Besides that, he said, he just didn't want to have to teach someone (but he was hurt because I didn't reciprocate that night), but we did talk after that and his attitude seemed to have changed.

The thing is, he has been very pushy and demanding about sex. He made it clear that he would use his tongue ANYWHERE to please his woman and to make her cum and he wants his woman to do the same. Well, it's obvious he's talking about "anal rimming" and I don't want to do that. I would consider anal sex, but I just don't think I want my tongue in anyone's a$$hole (but I have no problems recieving it). He also said that he wanted me to masturbate while he was inside of me from behind. Well, I don't know if I want to do that either. SHouldn't that be *my* choice?

So, either he's being demanding, pushy and unreasonable or I'm being a *prude*. Which is it?? Me and him click, we like being together, we have great physical chemistry. Isn't that enough?? What kind of man would throw that away because he wants rimming, toe sucking and whatever else?? Several men have already indicated they think this guy is unreasonable and I agree. I just wanted to hear more opinions, I guess.




Edited 4/28/2007 5:02 am ET by purity2007

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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 5:54pm
I'm thanking God right now that my kids will be raised in Europe. No chance whatsoever of them having you as their school psychologist!
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:11pm


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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:13pm

westridge: "Am I wrong to assume that you are a bit of a tease and aren't afraid to tell a guy how much you like sex - loud sex, adventerous sex, sex all the time?"

No, I don't consider myself a tease. And on the occasions I have teased men, it's been unintentional. Yes, I'm not afraid to tell a guy these things because I value open, honest communication with a man I'm seeing in the interest of cultivating a relationship.

Having said that, again, the problem I have with the guy I posted about is his unreasonable demands and expectations. Anal rimming, and I'm sure he was talking about that because he said there "isn't ANYWHERE he wouldn't put his tongue to make me cum or please me..." is one of his likes-but that doesn't give him the right to try and force that on me, or dictate that I masturbate while he's thrusting into me from behind.

I just don't see any type of basic consideration or respect for my feelings. And for him to get stuck on this, seems ridiculous to me when we were hitting it off so well. But, then he started talking about how expensive his sport is and how our dates would have to consist of blockbuster and a pizza. And I was even willing to meet him half-way on that, all I asked was that *once in awhile we go to a show and a amusement park*. He wasn't even willing to discuss how my reasonable wants could be accommodated.

Not only that, but when something is bothering him with a girl he's seeing, he clams up and cuts off all communication by sulking and ignoring her. I'm inclined to go with those who say run from this guy.




Edited 4/29/2007 6:17 pm ET by purity2007
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 6:19pm
Tish, I appreciated your response and understand what you were trying to say. I am not going to risk my professional career and get arrested for indecent exposure and it is NOT my intention to traumatize innocent children.
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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 1:35am
Well, it seems that there is more to this than sexual incompatibility. For many people, anal rimming isn't a big deal. I can't say that I'm into it myself, but there are plenty that are. Of course if he thinks that you ARE adventurous then I'm not surprised that he's "pushing" you into this. I don't think that you can assume that he is a pushy guy from this _one_ thing though. However, it does sound like he has issues once you start looking at other things. But then it doesn't really matter whether he's being pushy by other people's standards or not. What you think and how you feel is what matters. If you're not comfortable with many aspects of his personality and his demands in many areas then its a problem regardless of what anyone says. I think that you'll have to reconsider how compatible the two of you are, and think about where this relationship is going to go - if it's going to go anywhere.
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Registered: 05-05-2007
Sat, 05-05-2007 - 2:31am

I totally agree. he seems immature and could become abusive. also, sex is a huge part of a relationship and anything goes as long as BOTH are agreeable to it. i would RUN the other way from this guy. he appears to be a loser.

you sound like you are rather young, so you have plenty of time to find the right guy for you. one that will respect you and be considerate of your feelings. shop around....don't just settle for anything.

good luck!

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Registered: 04-17-2007
Sat, 05-05-2007 - 4:52pm
This guy sounds definitely like an abuser in the making!!!!
Run don't walk to the nearest exit.
Good luck
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Sat, 05-05-2007 - 6:41pm
Congrats savinkids!!!! :-)
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