I wish I could tell ahead of time....

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Registered: 04-20-2004
I wish I could tell ahead of time....
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 1:44pm
I just don't want to get involved with a man if he's not good in bed and isn't well equipped. It's not the type of thing you can really ask someone rightout.

Anyone know any clues?

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 1:57pm
hi sandy...it seems kissing is a good way to judge how sensuous a man might be...and that is also a time when you can hug tight and possibly feel his erection against you...when i was first dating the man i am currently involved with he made my knees weaken his kisses were soo sensuous and he's proven to be the most sensuous man i've ever known...and after a few weeks of "making out" my arm brushed against his crotch and i felt his erection and i thought "oh my! thats a well endowed man!".

there is no way i can think of for you to ask a man if he's good in bed...i mean, what guy would say "no i'm a lousey lover"? LOL

honey

    

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 1:59pm
Dear Sandy,

Is there any way to tell if a woman is good in bed before I date them? I really don't want to get involved with a woman that doesn't have big breasts and is good and bed.

Does that sound as shallow when I say it?

If that is important to you, I would just ask them...then they will be able to decide if they want to be with someone that values a "well endowed" male over one that is loving, generous and devoted. You can certainly have both things, but looking for just a "well endowed" male is a prescription for unhappiness.

Peace,

Scott.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 3:19pm

Hey Scott,


You took the words right out of my mouth!

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 3:36pm

Good clue:

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Registered: 02-12-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 3:38pm
Just because a guy isn't "good" in bed doesn't mean that he can't be eventually. I have been with a few men that got better as time went on. Sounds to me like you are looking for a penis, not getting involved with a man. Sex isn't everything. Go buy a vibrator.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 4:33pm
IF size is so important to you, then I suppose you could "audition" each prospective lover before you actually got involved. At least, he would know where your priorities lie! Then, if he passes the size requirement, you could warn him that he's on "probation" until you take him for a trial run in the sack.

But, IMO, if a guy has a mind, penis, fingers and a tongue, then he's coming "equipped" with all he needs to be a good lover. And "good" in bed is such a relative term. In other words, we start at square one with each new partner. All of us are different so what's "good in bed" in your opinion, may not be in mine.

I personally don't think a large penis is necessary at all to have a great experience, nor does it guarentee anything.

Good lovers are made, not born, so no man is hopeless. Any so-so lover can learn to be a great lover, if he's willing and you're willing to teach him how to please you. I haven't met a guy yet who's been able to read my mind!

BTW, what makes you think that you're a good lover? That kind of thing goes both ways so be prepared to be held to the same judgements, criticism and standards that you hold others! You could be asked to prove what YOU say, too.




Edited 4/20/2004 5:15 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001

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Registered: 04-20-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 5:36pm
Thank you for the only helpful reply.

Everyone else seemed very judgemental about my question probably because I didn't share their exact same values. I've been there and done that with an inadequate partner and I know what I want.

Thanks again

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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 6:03pm

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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 6:18pm
i totally agree with you Tish. to the poster if you cant afford that male doll like some one said earlier buy a vibrator.
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Registered: 10-30-2003
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 6:31pm

Oh Sandy, I'm sorry that they were mean to you.

CL-Yasmin1967

May I have the serenity to accept what I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I

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