I would never cheat, but...

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Registered: 04-23-2005
I would never cheat, but...
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Sat, 04-30-2005 - 5:47pm
I would never cheat on my SO (soon to be my DH), because I think that is wrong, and I wouldn't want to do anything to disrupt our trust, and I don't want anyone else. But every now and then I find myself wanting to experience someone different, not to satisfy emotional needs, but something else. Am I all that unsusual?
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 5:55pm
That's called having "fantasies". Fantasies are perfectly normal, everyone has them, and as long as they STAY fantasies, there's nothing wrong with having them.
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Registered: 11-15-2003
Sun, 05-01-2005 - 4:36pm

Sexymel,

The only thing wrong with you is that you are human. As GTB said, this is fantasy. Often when a fantasy is judged as "bad" you end up living it out...it's human nature. Taboo is very attractive and sometimes people slip because they can't accept that this perfectly human. Let it be okay, play with it in your sex life with your SO and then let it go when it is ready to leave.

Peace.
Scott.

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 8:44am
I do not believe what your are experiencing is all that uncommon for someone about to get married. However I would recommend that you take some time and do some self discovery of what is the reason(s) you are feeling this way. Is it because you are getting a bit nervous about the upcoming nuptuals or are you not really being honest to yourself about your feelings.
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 4:37pm
Its all about controlling your thoughts..a person who has control over their thoughts normally has more control over their emotions as well as their actions.