IC - After the deed

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Registered: 07-06-2004
IC - After the deed
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Tue, 05-30-2006 - 2:15pm

At the end of intercourse, it is normally "hard" for a man to stay inside very long after ejaculation with the member deflating and the head getting sensitive. Plus the sensation of immersion in the same slippery stuff the organ just expelled is "different".

Would most women prefer a guy to stay "connected" longer after ejaculating?

Is it okay for a guy pull it out while still erect?

Or should a guy stay inside until flaccid, and she can easily squeeze it out of her.

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 2:41pm

In most cases, when a man is finished, he's going to "shrink up" and there's no choice in the matter. I think what's MORE important than "staying in"......is staying THERE. i.e.: not jumping up and getting dressed, or washing, or going to watch TV.

Most women appreciate just lying together (time permitting) for a while.....the "afterglow"!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 4:48pm
The problem isn't whether you should stay in, it's stopping yourself deflating and slipping out most of the time - well, for me anyway. If I remain hard as I sometimes do, I'd prefer to stay in and start moving again. Frankly the extra wet and slippery sensation that the semen provides is rather sexy and we can both orgasm again quickly. If I have to pull out then I just do it slowly and there's no problem with that. She doesn't squeeze me out at any time.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 6:32pm

Usually, post orgasm, we just want to rest and that's easier said than done in some positions we find ourselves in!

My DH is so sensitive after orgasm, that just pulling it out is hard for him so he does it quickly. He says that my squeezing him is just too much.

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Wed, 05-31-2006 - 1:46am
Current guy is the only one I've had who will stay inside me and lay there until it shrinks out and I consider it one of my 'little trips to heaven' - there are no words to describe it. Once we even fell asleep with him still inside. However, sometimes, after ejaculation he'll still be firm (can't say hard, but larger than flacid) and when he pulls out in that condition I love to go down on him, but his 'head' is too sensitive to handle it. Can't say that he's ever pulled out still erect, yet if he did, I know I'd think I wasn't enough for him.
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Registered: 01-12-2004
Wed, 05-31-2006 - 5:06pm
I prefer a guy to stay inside as long as possible after he shoots. I love it when a man re-hardens while still inside. Probably comes from a fantasy I'd never do, the sensation of a second man moving in the semen left from another guy earlier.