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Ideas cause I have restrictions
| Tue, 05-01-2007 - 9:54am |
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I have a bf that is 6'4 and 280-300lbs and I am 5'3 and 190. We are limited on postions and I am always on top. But the difficulty we are having is that he dose not have a large penis to stay in and since I had plastic surgery everything is pulled up higher.
He is a very sexual man and I am learning b/cI hated sex. But with him it has been different and I had my first orgasm..WOW He is not into anal, but likes oral and that is done alot.
I would like to be able for one night for him to say WOW and give him pleasure like he is given me.
Since I am inexperienced only been with 5 men just want to do right and have fun.
Thanks

What makes you think that he's NOT having as much pleasure as you are?
If you think he's not....then talk to HIM and find out what he'd like you to do. He's the only one who knows what he likes and doesn't like, and he's the only one who can tell you what would make him happy.
It doesn't matter if you've been with 5 men, or 500 men, they're all different, and all like different things.
I'm not really sure if you are seeking different sexual positions or different sexual acts, so I'll try to cover a bit of both.
I find that pillows are GREAT for sex. You can put one (or more) beneath your butt and it will raise you and change the angle of entry. I think using a couple of pillows this way may help with his size issue too, as it creates a deeper penetration. He can put most of his weight on his legs (in a sort of kneeling squat position). You can also draw your knees up toward your chest (with or without pillows) to give him more room.
Doggy is another great position where size is usually not a problem. Again, it provides for deep penetration. It can be very comfortable if you lower your upper body down to the bed (maybe tuck a couple of pillows under your torso) and he stands behind you. This way, he doesn't have any pressure on his knees, and you have your weight supported by most of your upper body.
I also found a couple of links where you might find other position ideas. The second one is a book that you can purchase from Amazon, but I'm sure you can find it other places too.
Sexual Positions for Larger People
http://www.more2hug.com/articles/sex.html
Big Love: A Sourcebook on Sex for People of Size and Those Who Love Them
http://www.amazon.com/Big-Love-Sourcebook-People-Those/dp/1890159166
Now, if you are just looking for something a little different to "wow" him, have you ever tried having 'breast sex'? It can be a lot of fun, done in a variety of ways, and provides him with great visuals! The basic concept, of course, is to stimulate his penis between your breasts.
Are you comfortable enough with him to do some role play, dancing or stripping? Sometimes just getting turned on a 'different way' can WOW a person. Fantasy play can be very fun while adding excitement to your event. I'm not into heavy bondage, but sometimes I do like to tie DHs hands up and blindfold him. Then I just please him in a variety of ways, but it's very suspenseful for him (and allows him to fantasize). Since he can't *see* me, I don't even feel silly (LOL)! Sometimes I tickle him with a body duster brush, I have used beads and lube to give him a hand job, sometimes I tease him with silky things (like a scarf or even undies), sometimes I use my vibrator on him ... the list can get as creative as you want.
Incorporating sex toys into your play is also always fun for both of you. If you haven't played with them before, you can start with a vibrating penis ring, or a bullet style vibe. Either of those are easy to use together and add some new sensations for both of you to enjoy.
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