Idling in the Sexual Slow Lane?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Idling in the Sexual Slow Lane?
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 2:12pm
Whether your reading an article like this one, or visiting message boards like Let's Talk about Sex, there is sometimes a distorted view of what really occurs among "most" sexual adults.


We don't often see things in print like, Celebrate your Monogamy, or hear those in the public eye congratulated for their commitment to faithfulness. It has to make one wonder, sometimes, if they're on the right course (the reporters that is).



Personally, I love my monogamous relationship. Stepping outside of that wouldn't feel right on so many levels, but I have to admit .... reading and hearing all this hype does make me wonder sometimes if I'm not missing out on something. I think that's really the point of the article mentioned here too.


I'm curious to know if others think that this sort of publicity or sharing has ever made them evaluate their own sexual life in ways they may not have before?




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Registered: 11-29-2006
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:54pm
I do sometimes look at things like that and wonder what I might be missing, but that moment is fleeting. I don't think either of us would ever cheat, and I know neither of us likes to share, lol, so for us, I think a traditional monogamous relationship is what works best for us.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 2:00am

Hmmm, right now I'd just settle for someone that accepts me wholly, and completely, and takes great pleasure in savouring every moment with me when we are skin to skin.


I have my dirty wee fantasies, but I like them to stay that way.

 


 


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Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 7:19am
I think one of the great things about reading the posts on Let's Talk About Sex is that so many of the posters here are in committed, long term, successful, monogamous relationships.




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Registered: 08-19-2007
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 1:01pm

Maybe it's because DB and I haven't been intimate with each other for an extended amount of time and we're still in the "honeymoon" phase, but I have no interest in stepping out, even for a one-time fling. I respect him too much to do that too him. Even when we were just casually dating and didn't technically say we were exclusive, neither of us dated other people. We never even considered it. It was only after he got back from deployment that we became officially exclusive, but while he was gone, I turned down dates because I wanted to be true to him and I was willing to wait for him. All this stuff we hear on the news about affairs and such just makes me appreciate my relationship with DB all the more.

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Registered: 03-14-2008
Thu, 03-27-2008 - 1:27pm

This is a great thought discussion Misty..I read the article..very good.. IMO, i dont think in day to day life with your co-workers for example, or even your friends for that matter, and some people sadly even their spouses, we truly know 100% of a person.

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