I'm afraid of women

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Registered: 09-13-2008
I'm afraid of women
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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 12:39pm

When I was little I had surgery for a hypospadia...basically it's a "dick operation".

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 11:11am
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Registered: 08-28-1998
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 10:27am
Why not try using an ED drug? Use a portion of a pill. It may give you both extra help psychologically and it certainly will make it easier to get and maintain an erection.
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Registered: 09-05-2008
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 11:54am

I never said a woman will always reject a man because he doesn't match her preferences, but he will have to advertise a little more. Another example would be height. Take a man that is a foot shorter than the average woman. My guess is that women are not going to gravitate towards him. If you want to believe that they will, I'm okay with that, but I do not believe it. Does it mean he'll never be able to date a women taller than him? No, but it does mean he'll have to advertise a little more.

And preferences do not go out the window when you care about someone. I can speak from my personal experience, but I also don't let them control my decisions. I'll go back to something relative to the original topic. Forty four percent of women in the details sex survey stated they wished that their current partner had a larger penis, but it was no big deal. So it wasn't a deal breaker, but they certainly had their preferences.

All I'm saying is that people have preferences. It's not always a deal breaker and you may have to advertise a little more.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 5:02pm

I do agree that people can have preferences, but I think you're leaving one important factor out of your theory. Often people think they have preferences, but until they have new and different experiences, they don't realize that their preferences change.

You mentioned your preference theory in your post to another member about his current relationship as well. Again, the preferences can (and do) change over time.

When I was young, I felt secure being with a taller man. I barely noticed men under 6' for several years. I also liked to date "bad boys". Men that had an edge to them, an edge that was written all over them. I equated that edge with "fun".

All I know is I'm married to a man who many (all that I know) refer to as a "nice" man. He doesn't have a bad boy "edge" or image ... but he certainly knows how to have fun! BTW, he's less than 6' as well. When I think about my relationship with him, a word like "preference" doesn't even enter my mind. He's a complete package, just as he is, and as I think about it now, I would "prefer" that he stays exactly who he is, how he is .... where he is.

So, were they really preferences?





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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 09-17-2008 - 8:16am

So, were they really preferences?


At the time, they were. Then you matured and met the man you've been waiting for.

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Registered: 09-13-2008
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 1:32am

Thanks guys


Hopefully none of them (the girls) were hurt by my actions.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 7:01am
Personally, I would try this, "Cuddle next to her and ask for a raincheck?"

If you have problems for a long time, or it seems she's getting frustrated, then I would talk to her about it outside of the bedroom, without jokes.




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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 7:33am

I agree with Misty.

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