I'm confused... it is not hard

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Registered: 09-24-2006
I'm confused... it is not hard
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 3:46am

Hi everyone ~

I need some help! I do not have a lot of experience with different men. I have been married for 10 yrs and now have a boyfriend whose penis is MUCH smaller than my husband's. Let me say, it does not affect his performance AT ALL ~ I cum more now than ever, but when I go down on him I really notice it. In fact, if I start off going down on him, it sometimes isn't even hard until I have put it in my mouth and stroked it a few times. Is this normal or is he really not in to it? He acts like I excite him tremendously, but then I am confused about why it isn't hard all the time when we start... it also doesn't get much bigger when he is hard. Am I doing something wrong?

Please help me...

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 6:26am

Just briefly:


1) Not every guy will get completely hard every time without some physical stimulation.


2) the size of a penis when flacid has no relationship on how much it will grow when it goes hard.

 


 


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Registered: 09-24-2006
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 9:58am
So, I am not doing something wrong? He acts like he is very excited, but sometimes I have to actually put it in my mouth or touch it before it gets hard... and sometimes it is harder than others. Last time I wasn't even sure he was completely hard yet (after 5 minutes) and he came about 20 sec later
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 10:12am
No, you are not doing anything wrong.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 09-25-2006 - 5:23am

Keep in mind also that a man's abiltiy to get and maintain an erection is very much affected by his age, health, and by the use of alcohol or drugs.

A guy in his fifties does not walk around with a nearly permanent hard-on the way a guy in his teens or twenties does, and even a young man will find his abilities greatly diminished after several drinks or a couple of joints. Also, many diseases directly impact erectile ability, diabetes being one of the biggies, as do many prescription drugs with anti-depressants high on the list of troublemakers.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 12:11am
All it takes for a guy to lose his erection is to suddenly think about something other than sex, even for a few seconds. You boy friend could have admired your drapes for a moment and "down it came". LOL Some women love the feel of a penis getting hard in their mouth.