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Im female but....
| Tue, 04-08-2008 - 10:26am |
im female but i have sex like a guy...when im having sex with my boyfriend in my mind i believe i actually have a penis and it gets me off 100% of the time its fantastic but how do i get this image out of my head? i know im female but why do i think im a guy in bed?

What feelings do you associate with being female or male?
Does female mean things like weak, passive, subservient? While male means strong, aggressive, in control, dominating?
How much control do you feel you have over your daily life? Is it possible you want to take back some power during sex, that is missing from your regular day?
Welcome to the board, oddball288.
Fantasies come from different places, and don't always mean you actually want what is in your fantasy. They can be complicated, and I suppose analyzing them should be left up to the professionals.
I find that my fantasies change over time. Since they come from your subconscious, there's not always a lot you can do to direct them. Allowing new fantasies to enter that space in your mind can be helpful though.
Since it seems that these fantasies are bothering you, perhaps you should try to focus on the pleasure your clitoris brings to you. Embracing your own sexuality. Often, it is compared to the female equivalent of a penis. As tulips mentioned, you could be associating the penis with power and control, but there's no reason why you can't realize the power and control that you have built right into your own genitals.
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Click here to help me celebrate!The part of our minds that are active during our sexual fantasies are a little bit crazy, so don't worry about it if it doesn't make sense.
I heartily agree with Tulips and Misty, as usual!
You assume this is a bad thing, but you assume this because it contradicts the role that you think society wants you to play. The penis has always been a symbol of fertility but not necessarily a symbol of power. Many pre-paternal societies saw the female as the power figure.
Sexual organs are simply sexual organs; sources of pleasure and procreation. Celebrate who you are and what you feel, and stop trying to squeeze yourself into a model you feel you OUGHT to be in just because our, oh so screwed up, society says so. If how you feel feels good to you, and it doesn't interfere with how you function, in all the aspects of your life, live it and love it!
Hey, find a guy that welcomes an aggressive and sexual woman and try strap on play, it might really be an avenue to express yourself.
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