I'm a mover & shaker

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I'm a mover & shaker
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Thu, 07-05-2007 - 7:19pm

Hi all, new to this side of the board. Hope someone can help, it's bit silly sounding.
I 'm seeing a great man and we get along great in just about everything. My possible problem is me.
When it comes to the intimate department...I'm a squrmer, he claims to really like it, but once in a blue moon he states to hold still.
I can't seem to help it. When he gets to those getcha spots (like the soft skin on your collar bone, it just sends me) I also feel that I'm missing out on some of the great feelings because of this. On the other hand, I'm afraid that if I think this out to much, I may give the impression of just laying there.
I'm 45, am I too old to change.

Anybody..any advise?

smitty

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 10:59pm

Welcome to the board Smitty.

I'm not really sure when you're squirming, but if it's during intercourse, perhaps you are making things difficult for him, especially if he's trying to get started. Try letting him get into a rhythm and then moving to meet his thrusts instead of working against him.

He may also think your squirming is a sign that you're not into what's going on. Have you considered woman on top? Perhaps that will help -- as he can lay still.

If you want to provide more detail, it might be helpful in giving you a better answer.



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Tue, 07-10-2007 - 7:15pm

CL Misty mae
thanks for the reply

No the intercourse department is good, it's that prelude to it. You know the neck and coller bone area. Plus he likes to tickle, the feet, the side and my butt.

I did seem to settle down this weekend (I thought about what some replys might be and took some self advise. i took a good breath and just went with it.
We do enjoy toys and are always on the look out for one that we can both enjoy together
If you think of one, let me know.
We have a joke about when I go down on him,because I don't use my hands usually(we call it look mom no hands) Yes, I do give him hand jobs and he does enjoy it.

i'll write more later.

thanks
Smitty