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Im pregnant
| Sun, 09-18-2005 - 2:35am |
as far as the e.p.t pregnancy test says-- 2 lines equals PREGNANT!.. and uhm i cried. i told my partner and he's more scared than i am, more than the less, hes happy, but we still arent both ready. im 18, hes 20..i will be 19 November. im going to planned parenthood as soon i can get an appt. to be FOR sure. i know for sure i wont have an abortion i just cant.. but my mother is strict on me and boys, although im about to be 19, thats just how she is. Is there any way anyone has advice on how i can tell her ? im more afraid of her... than having a baby.
aAaaAaAaAh.... in need of real advice.

Before you tell her, you need to have some firm plans in place. And the father to be should be there too with you, to assume some of the responsibility. You don't just dump it on her "Mom, I'm pregnant" without being able to tell her more. You and he need to figure out exactly what you're going to do as far as providing everything your child needs, where you will live, etc.
Things such as how you are going to afford clothing, diapers, formula (if you don't nurse), medicines, Dr visits, food, crib, car seat, etc etc for the the next umpteen years. Do you have a job? Does the father? Are you going to move in with him? If not, how are you going to pay your share of the expenses in your mother's home? As an adult and parent, it's not fair to let her pay everything in the way of rent or mortgage, utilities, for you and YOUR child. Who will take care of the child when you return to work? How will you pay for things when you're not working right after delivery, will you and BF have enough saved to get you through an unpaid maternity leave?
You need to have all these answers and plans in place before you talk to your mother. It's devastating when your teen daughter tells you she's pregnant, I know. BTDT. All the things you wanted for her have suddenly shifted and things are going to become a lot harder. She's not going to get to do a lot of the things that most teens do, anymore. So get your plans in place with the father and then talk to her together. Best of luck to you.
I agree with Tally, you and your b/f have to sit down together and plan out how you are going to handle this before talking to your mother.
IME - Pregnancy tests dont give false positives only false Negatives.
I'd be pretty sure at this point that you are pregnant. You made your bed, now you have to lie in it... buck up and tell your mom and dont expect her to be happy, also dont expect her to hold your hand and provide for you and your child.
I had my first child when I was 19... difference is I was married before I became pregnant, had my own home, car, job etc...
#1 priority, Get a JOB, even a temp one and start saving every penny you can lay your hands on.
#2 Be prepared to lose all your freedoms in 9 months. babies dont care if you are tired or if you want to be alone or to go out with friends...
you grew up too fast, and I know what you are in for and its hard. GL.
Just be absolutely certain you're pregnant before you tell her, unless you want her to be even more restrictive and concerned about your sexual activity! This will be very painful for her as a parent, so try and understand her reaction, whatever it may be.
Just tell her straight out as soon as you know for sure because you need good prenatal care for a healthy baby. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you good luck.
One thing I remembered being counseled in the mentor groups for those who were also in your position...was that this is truly between you and bf. Again, just my humble point of view.
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If you'll read the post under health issues, it's already done. There has been an abortion.
Edited 9/22/2005 10:07 am ET ET by dakine001