im really hairy ...

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Registered: 12-01-2003
im really hairy ...
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Thu, 01-12-2006 - 4:36pm

ive already been sexually active.. but im always shy to show my body all the way because i am so hairy. not on my arms.. or under arms or anything like that.
Just *down there* and *back there* in between. ISNT THAT WEIRD ?? how hair grows in both those places.. I am too afraid to shave *down there* because the hair is evrywhere and i dont want to cut myself anywhere it isnt suppose to be shaved. ::ouch!::

My boyfriend has never said anything.. besides "let me shave you"
NEVER !!
lol

its too embaressing for me. (i do shave but only on the top part im to scared to go all the way)
any suggestions ??

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 6:52am

The question is .... what do YOU want to do for yourself?

 

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Registered: 01-11-2004
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 9:42am

Hmm...I have shaved my genitals. The hair growing back is itchy. IMHO, use a hair clippers to keep the area close trimmed. A clean shaved woman's vulva makes the woman look like a little girl. I like hair on a woman!

Mac

 

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 1:41pm

If you can get over the fear of shaving down there then I would absolutely suggest that you hit up the nearest adult store. I happened to come across some of the best lotions and gels for shaving the lower regions. The consistency of the products are like no other shaving cream you find in typical stores. These are designed specifically for extremely sensitive areas. I have to admit, I started buying these shaving products at adult stores and haven't gone back to the typical products since. The results are too good to be true! Give it a shot!

Good luck with everything down there and hope you have a steady hand!

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 9:51am

Hey Naleiya!

By what I've read, it sounds like you simply don't like that hair down there comparing yourself to others. In fact, it sounds like you'd prefer it "gone" if it weren't for the pain and work involved.

That said, you can either take the pain/work OR you can at least stick with just "trimming" it all down to what you'd feel is an okay enough level for you. YES, very good for you that you're with a guy who enjoys you even though you don't admire that hair yourself.

Point is, the common advice here is to do what YOU like, and since YOU don't like that hair there and aren't ready for the possible pain and work to keep it shaved, then just stick with keeping it very tightly trimmed. Let time take its place here and see how you like that for a while, there just may be no need to shave for all you know. Very common discussion for both genders on male message boards too, believe it or not, pretty normal. Good luck with that. :)

 

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 3:46pm

" i thought i was just the ONLY one hairy *down there*.

Naleiya ...."

No, Naleiya, ALL mature women have pubic hair. Some have a little, some have a lot. Until about 15-20 years ago the vast majority of women shaved the "bikini line" edges so it wouldn't show in a swimsuit and left the rest alone. If you can find some old PLAYBOY or PENTHOUSE nudes from the 70s and 80s ( even early 90s) , you'll see that all of those women ( shaving completely was "kinky" then) had pubic hair and some were pretty bushy.

Now, your pubic hair is your private affair and nobody else's business. The only ones who see it are you, your BF, and your OB/GYN. Your DR. doesn't care one way or the other ( and likely will tell you to leave it). You've said your BF doesn't have a problem, so he must like it. So it's up to how you feel and what you do.

Personally, I say leave it. My wife doesn't shave and I wouldn't have it any other way.
taoist

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 01-15-2006 - 10:38pm

>>ALL mature women have pubic hair.<<

Hey taoist!, nice to see ya again!

I remember clitoris.com itself (a woman's site at that) reminded readers that not all mature women and men grow pubic hair, just like not all mature men grow chest hair. Just a reminder for those who were curious or not in the know. :)

 

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Registered: 03-31-2006
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 6:58pm

Absolutely!!!! that is great advice taoistnovice..DH loves my hair. He would be upset with me if I shaved it off...He gets mad (kiddingly) whenever I trimmed it shorter...so now I just keep it in my bikini, barely! it drives him crazy to see my suit a little puffed out. He loves the Black Crows CD cover "Amorica"...and I do too...and it looks very much like me...he took some pictures of me the same way and says they drive him crazy...There are SOME guys out there who still like a nice hairy one. You have to decide how you want it and find a guy who will take you for who you want to be. Although, I would do with it what he wanted, I am so glad he likes it natural. I would want him to do with his what I wanted. but we both like the look of hair. And it's not fair for some of you girls who say it IS cleaner or whatever...it may feel cleaner but it is not. Hair was probably designed to help keep it clean. If you don't have any then any fuzz/whatever that is in your underwear would just slowly slide down and attach itself to your lips...NOW, what is dirty??? I don't think it's fair to make kids feel dirty for having hair. I say do what you want. My OB/GYN says it doesn't matter but if she had to make a decision she said it would be cleaner with hair but it's not worth worrying about...
do what feels right to you.

ang

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Registered: 03-31-2006
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 7:05pm

You aren't the only hairy one down there...mine grows in fast also. which is another reason I am glad to let it grow. It sounds like he likes YOU and not how you keep your hair...which is a good sign in guys today. follow your heart and know that some guys absolutely love hair down there. More guys need to speak up about that. Some girls are getting a complex because of porn, everyone is shaved. If you like hair say it. I don't like bald...I have issues with it's look and feel...but I'm not going to make someone else feel bad for shaving...it's a personal choice. But I don't understand why a guy would get turned on to look at what seemed to be a little girl. I WANT to see hair on my guy...but not everyone does...that's the choice.

ang

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