Inconvenienced about having period

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Inconvenienced about having period
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Fri, 12-08-2006 - 10:00am
hi there: i'd like some ideas/support ove the issue of having sex whilst on a period. i've been involved with the most amazing and loving bf ever, and we have a great sex life, but i'm due soon, and want to know how to discreetly have sex w/out him knowing about the removal of my sanitary pad, or the smell factor.i'm very aware of cleaning myself fastiduously each time i change my pad, or when i use the toilet (to the point of using Tea Tree wipe for extra hygiene, tho' much to his dislike!) and this will be the first w/end where we'll be together for the when this has happened (we've been toget 4mths now, and each time i've been on, we've been apart). i don't so much mind the blood smears, but it's the smell and the taste for him, as i know he'll just want to give me oral whether i'm on or not. i don't particularly smell that bad, but in my mind, i think he might be put off.. in the long distant past when i've been involved in a long term relat. like the one i'm having, i've never been put off by this, but over the yrs, i seem to have lost some confidence along the way. this time round, i'm with someone who is truly understanding and utterly devoted to me. i know that what he says is genuine and is coming straight from his heart, so whatever fears i have, i should, really have them banished.. i just want us to make love w/out any awkwardness or inconvenience, but i know i shouldn't really think that this is an obstacle, when i know he will be understanding of this.
what do you lot think?? xxd
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 1:46pm

Let him know you have your period before anything gets started and ask him if he's okay with sex, oral, etc. during that time.


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Registered: 11-15-2006
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 5:43pm
I think you should consider yourself lucky you have such a man(Which I am sure you do) that will still come around you with your period. My fiance treats me as if i have the plague when i have mine. Thank God mine only lasts 4 days...Shoot, and it's a blue moon that I get ever get oral sex even without my period.
Just keep doing what you are doing, and if you feel uncomfortable, talk to him about it. I am sure he will understand as you say he does in everything else.
Good Luck
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Registered: 11-29-2005
Sun, 12-10-2006 - 2:47pm
Have you thought about doing it in the shower. That is my way of having sex on my period. As far as oral goes, that is totally up to you. I would not allow it but that was my choice. If you want your red wings you have to go some place else. LOLOL It sounds like he would be very understanding about that.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sun, 12-10-2006 - 5:51pm
You never know until you ask. My DH doesn't care if I have my period or not and is ready to go no matter what. I think it bothers me more than him! I prefer to have sex in the shower as some one else already mentioned and also I have a diaghram for BC that is great for use during that time of the month!



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Registered: 11-28-2006
Mon, 12-11-2006 - 8:17am

many thanks to all who's replied - really appreciated it!

my bf has never had a problem with having sex during a girl's period, and has made so many reassurances to me about these body matters. he's has the most sensitive understanding to me and my body that i am in one mind confident in what he says, and in the other, i think he's just saying it to be pleasant to me. i know that i am insecure in so many ways as a person, but this issue is something i've not come across before with a guy. guess, i'll just have to go with flow and see what happens...

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Mon, 12-11-2006 - 9:44am
I too am in the most loving relatioship I have ever been in, making it the most comfortable. We have sex when Im on my period, he usually removes the tampon for me, as nasty as people may think it is, he is totally fine with it... he loves me and that is apart of being a woman. Talk to your boyfriend about it. See how he feels about sex during your period... have sex in the shower, or just put a towel down if you are heavy flow. I wouldnt worry about it, just speak up and see hwat he says.